First of all, let’s define “friend”.
Do we want to find an “old” friend?

Lots of websites specialize in helping you find an “old” existing Friend.

These sites are called “classmates”, “reunions”, “public records” or names along the lines of trying to find acquaintances from way back, from school, the Service or previous jobs.

Do we want to find “people”?

We can use “publicbackgroundcheck”, “usa-people-search”, “peoplefinders” types of sites for finding people.

If, however, we are looking for love and are calling it friendship initially then things get really complicated.

For the word “friendship” the Web comes up with 46,100,000 replies.

So we should be more specific about what exactly the “friend” word means. “a person you know well and regard with affection and trust; “he was my best friend at the university” ally: an associate who provides assistance; “he’s a good ally in fight”; “they were friends of the workers” acquaintance: a person with whom you are acquainted; “I have trouble remembering the names of all my acquaintances”; “we are friends of the family” supporter: a person who backs a politician or a team etc.; “all their supporters came out for the game”; “they are friends of the library” a member of the Religious Society of Friends founded by George Fox (the Friends have never called themselves Quakers) ”

wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn

We can now of course rank friends: good friends, intimate friends, family friends ad infinitum. When we then continue to talk about “friends” and “friendship” we soon start approaching the decision we have to make; do we just want to be penpals or do we want to meet face to face at some point in time.

This brings us to the dangerous word: DATING.

Yes, we have now convinced ourselves that we want to date somebody.

Just on the Web or for real? We can now play games based on the fact that most people trying to find dates on the Web are married. Does that surprise you? Given the anonymity of the Web it is very likely that if I am fat and ugly I don’t want to emphasize this fact when I try to attract a date, so temptation is very great to embellish things a bit and to say in my description that I am “Voluptuous” and “Attractive”.

Who knows, in all likelihood I will never meet this person anyway and this is only fantasy. Guess what? I now start corresponding in earnest on the Web with this person I know nothing about. I tell this person all my deepest secrets, except the fact that I am ugly and fat. After doing this for a while my “Date” says that we should meet in person, because it seems we are really compatible.

YEEKS! What now? Well, you brought this on yourself and you have these options:

1. Go on a crash diet and get a face lift.

2. Forget about this person and try again with a new date.

3. Hope your Date is fat and ugly too so you should take a chance and meet anyway. (This takes a lot of courage).

4. Hope your Date is pretty or attractive and VERY understanding and will accept you the way you are. (Fat chance).

So, anyway, there you have it, some of the possibilities you have when you want a Friend.

One thing you should pick up from this : you are probably better off if you are honest to your future friend or date; it may prevent depression, bouts of overeating and Internet Withdrawal Symptoms.

J Shipper is very interested in Internet Dating. You can find out more about Internet Dating, what to do and what not to do at: www.dating-service-now.com

I want to share with you information that the Russian marriage agencies don’t tell you on their web sites.

Many of the dating agencies present to you how young Russian women are so family oriented and will make wonderful wives and family partners. This causes many foreign men to dream about the perfect family! A family that they have already built up in their own imagination.
Every man who has seen the Russian dating agency ads and believes in them completely, has built up in his mind and has created his own fantasy what a future family with a Russian women he will have.

If the man’s dreams are based on a foundation the marriage agency has constructed and not on a healthy dose of common sense, then, most likely the relationship is at a great risk of disappointment and inevitable failure.

The dating services help bring you together, they do not help you to stay together! It is not their job to make your relationship last, so they don’t bother to warn you of the many pitfalls that can become you and destroy your marriage. What do you expect of your new Russian bride and what do you really know about her??

I want to give you an example how you can read into the marriage agency advertising using a critical eye and common sense.

Try this: Go to any marriage dating agency and following their procedure to join. Look at Russian women from 21 to 25 years old.. Pay close attention to what these women have written in their bios.. Do you see anything in common??? Of course you do.. It is very obvious! Ninety percent if not more of these women have written that they have a bachelor degree. They just finished or going to finish their educational requirements. Ask yourself, WHY?

If all the dating agencies are telling you that all Russian women are very family oriented and in most cases live to serve their husband and children, why would they spend 10 years in school and from 4-7 years at the university, getting a degree?

Why would these young women spend the biggest part of their young life studying so hard if they are so family oriented? Why not, instead, go take domestic courses such as cooking and sewing or child care?

Do these women, who have spent the better part of their young lives dedicated to getting a higher education, look as women who are preparing themselves to be housewives and mothers and not have a professional career???

Yeah… it is look a little bit like the opposite… if not more…

Here is another question: Compared to the United States, how many children are in the average Russian family?

Is it not unusual to see in the average American family at least three children. The statistical average is 2.7 children per family. How you get a 7/10th of child I don’t know, but that is the statistic!

In Russia, to see a family with three children would be quite a shock, absolutely! It is even unusual to see a Russian family with two children.

When I just came to USA, I was surprised how many pregnant women I saw on the streets! In Russia it is very seldom that you will see a pregnant woman in public. For the last few generations, Russian couple produce only one child. By the way, it is a very big problem in Russia.

That each couple produces only one child, does not allow the population to grow but rather stagnate. To be honest, it is not only a problem for Russia, but for all European countries.

Are you wondering why most Russian couples have only one child if Russian women are so extremely family oriented as the dating agencies promise you? Why don’t they want to have more children?

The reason is not because of a difficult economical situation, in fact you can see many countries that have much more difficult economic situations and these poor families have 5-10 children. In Russia, even wealthy families have only one child.

I can give you many more examples of what the dating agencies tell you and what you can see on your own.

Be smart enough to learn about the culture of your future wife’s country and about the circumstances that she grew up in, before you marry her. It can prevent you from making many mistakes and help you to build a happy family with an Russian woman.

Marina Smiley is the author of “Your Russian Bride - The Shocking Truth” This eBook is available here. Get Your Free Report The 5 Key Tips That You Have To Know About Russian Women.