You have seen a personal ad that you like and now you want to respond. Most people do it wrong and then wonder why they never get a reply. While there are “secrets” or guarantees, here are 10 tips on how to respond to a personal ad to help you stand out from the crowd.

1. Write in advance. Draft your response. Use a word processor (Word, WordPad etc.) to check spelling and grammar. Just remember that a word processor cannot tell the difference between “live” and “leave”.

2. Personalize it. Never use a generic response. Nobody likes a “canned” response. Each email should be written to that particular person. Visualizing a real person and writing him/her helps. Want to contact many people as quickly as possible? Create a template and save it in your computer (or on paper). Then personalize it for each contact.

3. Study the person’s ad and look for clues on how to reply. In your response, tell how or why you may fit with their hopes, desires and personality.

4. Avoid overused, generic terms like “Hi_, can we chat?” or “Response to your ad”. Use the subject of the email to catch attention: most people look at the subject to decide whether to open the email. If you have received responses for your personal ads, study the ones that attract your attention and model yours from them.

5. Write more than one line. Tell something about yourself. Give a compliment but avoid commenting on the person’s looks, especially when writing to a pretty woman (how many others have done that?). You could mention what attracted you to their ad. Ask questions about something they wrote. Show keen, genuine interest.

6. Don’t write a novel. Long messages can be intimidating, especially if the person has received lots of responses. They simply get deleted. Keep it short and sweet.

7. Don’t ask for personal information at this point. And never reveal personal information on first contact.

8. Unless the person has said he/she is looking for a casual relationship, don’t mention anything suggestive of sex. A “friends first” approach works best.

9. Avoid negativity. Don’t mention past failed relationships. And don’t brag. If you like something about yourself or have a special talent, sneak it in without touting your horn. Example, “My friends say I play the piano really well.”

10. Be pleasant, courteous and positive. And above all, be honest. Don’t say you work out regularly at the gym, as impressive as it may seem, when you know you’re couch potatoes.

There you have 10 tips on how to respond to a personal ad. Take your time and write a winner. It could mean the difference between success and failure in getting you the person you seek.

By  David Kamau

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James Bond is not just another guy who gets his way across with the most beautiful women in the world, with just “Dry Martini, shaken and not stirred”. There are a few important lessons which Sean Connery and later Pierce Brosnan have taught us.

Exuding supreme self-confidence and style in every step, form part of their overall bearing and behavior. Like Bond, you can also take the following tips, to make your presence “felt” as a man that spells charisma and exudes “control”.

1. Say Cheese, often! Laughing only during a joke session or a funny movie is not what a woman looks for in you. Look yourself in the mirror and try to put on your best smile and see how that simple act changes the way people treat you.

A genuine smile brings about a sense of comfort, all-is-well-with-me kind of feeling on your face and ensures that there is something deep down inside which makes you happy. This sheer realization rubs off on your date and she obviously would love to spend more time with a happy and secure man!

2. Give pauses when you speak Never speak in such a hurry as if you have to catch a flight the next minute. Intersperse your sentences with adequate uhms and ahs. Give reasonable pauses in between - you will not appear foolish, rather intelligent and thoughtful, as if you mark and mean every word you say. Take a breather, before any word or point, where you wish to lay stress on. More than the content of your soliloquy, the style sometimes carry more weight.

3. A clumsy walk is extremely disgusting Your personality takes a new meaning by the way you carry yourself physically. The gait, the strides all make up your overall deportment. Walking with your body slumping forward, shifty eyes when you talk make you look lazy, insecure, nervous and too laid back.

Remember the army command, stomach in, chest out, chin up. Of course I don’t want to make you look like a stiff dummy toy soldier, by when you walk with your spine erect and chin up, quickly and with definitive steps, stand or sit down without leaning too much forward - it all boils down to making you look confident and smart. A man who knows where is he is going.

4. Make up your mind what to do with your hands What you do with your hands and body movements are important signals which you give out to the world. Do not move in jerky, shaky movements. Loosen your limbs and try to move in circular motions. Learn to relax as you move your hands and body, as if you were painting or acting out a poem. Surely do not pose as a dancer, but be as fluid and relaxed as is possible, without appearing effeminate.

5. Stand tall, stand erect Most men do not look very confident and sure of themselves when they are merely standing. Fiddling with their mobiles, fidgeting with their nails, crossing their arms all throw up images of a nervous, indecisive and closed personality. Find out your own style, that you are most comfortable with yet appears charming. Amazing yet true, the men who pose on front covers of fashion magazines, do speak of an extremely confident and macho persona. Why not take a few lessons from these photographs? It is crucial to look calm, collected and in control, even when you are standing.

By  Joshua Goh

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Imagine that you are already in your college days and still you can’t find a date. Or even asking someone for a date is a misery for you. In short, you find it hard to approach women and lacks confidence in yourself.

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We have all heard the story on the news about a person who decided to meet up with another individual they had chatted with online, and never returned home. These occurrences are abnormal when it comes to online dating, but here are a few tips to make sure that your online dating experience is fun and safe.

Make sure to trust your instinct. If you have a gut feeling that something may not be right about the other person, stick with your instinct. You should always feeling comfortable with whoever you are chatting. If someone is abusive, block them immediately. There are plenty of other personal ads to look through, so take your time and view a good number of them.

Before agreeing to a date, make sure you know as much as possible. Never publish your phone number or email address in personal ads. Additionally, don’t provide your home or work address to anyone you have not met. Don’t allow yourself to be talked into anything…you are the one in charge!

Take your time to get to know someone…don’t feel rushed. A patient person will be happy to wait until you are ready to meet. Chat on the phone for a while before arranging a date to get to know each other.

When it comes to the actual date, there are a few things to keep in mind. Always meet in a public place that is well known and convenient to you. You will want to tell a friend where you are going and who you are meeting. Always carry a cell phone on a date, and if possible, phone your friend during the date to confirm that everything is fine.

Try to meet at lunchtime, which are convenient, and have a time limit. Make your own travel arrangements. Don’t accept a ride home on the first date or reveal your address. Keep the date to a time limit so that you have an ‘exit’ point. This way, if you’re feeling uncomfortable, you can politely leave.

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By: James Calvin

We all know that communication is key to a healthy relationship. What some men might not realize is the importance of phone calls. How often to call a girlfriend? When to call a girl? How often to return a girl’s calls?

The telephone- a miracle of the modern age, allowing communication through vast distances. Although this wonder tool has been one of man’s most important assets throughout human history, it has also been the source of some of man’s biggest dilemmas and many a headache, particularly pertaining to girls. This dilemma is only compounded by the advent of answering services, caller trace and other suchlike devices.

Knowing when and how often to call is something every guy should know if he wishes to master the art of telecommunication with the fairer sex. After all, this knowledge can really make or break a relationship even before it has actually begun.

Calling for the first time

So you meet the girl of your dreams in a club one night. You somehow build up the courage to talk to her and BAM!, instant connection. Interesting conversation then ensues. She actually laughs at your jokes and, wonder of wonders, she gives out her phone number.

So, mission accomplished, right? Wrong. Sorry son, but this battle has barely just begun. The first call is often the most daunting, and causes men the most agitating problems. Basically screwing this up can mean clipping the wings of a possibly beautiful relationship before it has a chance to take flight.

Timing is everything

Be sure not to jump the gun. It is important to time the first call properly for maximum effect. Calling too soon to ask a girl out can give the impression of being too eager. Around three days is an ample waiting period. “Huh? Who is this again?” Waiting too long can be just as bad. Nothing is worse than being forgotten. It’s important not to wait longer than a week to avoid a possibly embarrassing conversation.

So now you’ve finally got a girlfriend. You’ve been dating for a while. Telecommunication is still an important part of the relationship.

Here are some things to remember:

First and foremost, when you say you’re going to call her, call her. Not calling when she’s expecting one can cause her to contemplate your intentions. This may lead the girlfriend to think you’re not really into it. She might even start looking elsewhere for some tender loving care.

Avoid calling during work. Once in a while when you have a valid reason is okay, but too much can be distracting to her.

Schedule your call after working hours. Even if you have nothing to do the whole day, she does not need to know that. It’s imperative to give the impression of having a busy and eventful life. Of course, it’s even better if you actually have one. Also, it’s best to call in the middle of the week if you’re going to ask her out for the weekend. This will allow plenty of time to prepare for the possible rendezvous.

After leaving a message, all that’s left is to wait for a return call. Days later, could it be possible that she’s not calling back? No, that’s not possible. The message must have gone astray, right? Well, if the message was left to somebody else, there’s a relatively good chance that she didn’t receive it. So feel free to call back after a day. If it’s left to some sort of answering service, chances are she received it and just doesn’t want to call back.

If she leaves a message, you might want to wait a day to call back so as not to seem to be at her every beck and call. Exceptions apply when the message goes somewhere along the lines of, “Help, my house is on fire!”

If you find yourself geographically apart for a time, you don’t have to necessarily bombard her with phone calls. Just make sure that the calls you make are meaningful. You might even send a personalized gift or card just to remind her of you.

Generally you can’t call your girlfriend too often unless of course she’s finding reasons to cut the conversation short. This is a sign that she is showing traces of suffocation. Three times a day just to say howdy is a bit much.

As is with the other important things in life, when it comes to calling your girlfriend, it is the quality and not the quantity that matters most. And above all, don’t forget to call when you say you will.

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