One of the worst nightmares for a guy when it comes to seducing and dating women is falling in the trap of being a “nice guy”. Although you must always treat a woman with respect and dignity, it’s absolutely vital you do not become another “nice guy” around women.

So what exactly is a “nice guy”?

Well, a nice guy is a regular guy, a good guy.

To cut to the chase, nice guys don’t have a clue about what they’re doing.

- They buy roses on every other date they get with a new girl.
- They try to earn her affections by getting her presents and fancy things.
- They think they’re romantic and poetic, but all they are is pretty lame.
- They don’t have the good momentum, and get put in the “friends” box.
- They’re so desperate to please women that they put their own personal needs (time alone,
time with friends, etc) away, placing the girl on a pedestal.
- Nice guys don’t just appreciate a girl, they worship her.

But more importantly, nice guys are nice because deep down, they feel insecure.

And who wants to be dating an insecure guy?

Okay so here’s the big question: how do you get a girl to pay attention to you, when there are literally billions of other guys on the planet?

Well, start by being unusual. Unusual in an enchanting way.
You have to be desirable.
Make them wanting more.
Never give them what they want, especially not when you’re trying to seduce them.
And for God’s sakes, STOP buying gifts on every other occasion.

Here’s one of the best strategies: let her have a peak and shut the door.

BAM!

You get the idea.

Picture Will Smith, in the “Hitch” movie.
In the bar scene, he approaches Eva Mendes in the coolest way possible, and blows away the guy to whom she was talking to just before.
Will takes a seat, and has a light chat with Eva, and you can see she’s interested.
They talk for a couple of minutes, and just at the peak of the conversation, Will Smith gets up and leaves.
And you can see Eva getting up and looking in the direction where he left. She was definitely interested, and the rest of the movie proves it well.

Now let’s analyze that great little scene.

You can see that Will Smith obviously knows what he’s doing.

He doesn’t ask her phone number directly, he patiently waits for her to get interested.
He acts and talks differently than most other guys, and that gets Eva intrigued.

And just at the moment when he feels she’s finally taken off her built-in radar, he leaves her.
And that’s exactly what you need to do. A lot of guys get good things going by having a good conversation, but after a while that conversation becomes lame and by the time they ask her number, she’s already gone, maybe not physically, but mentally.

Let other guys do the talking, let other guys buy expensive gifts, let other guys sink their own ships by being too nice and too cheap with women. Don’t do the same mistakes that thousands of guys do when seducing women.

It’s all about the attitude. Display the right attitude (stop being a nice guy) to build your way to more success with women, and smile when you see guys behaving like ass-kissers around women. Ass-kissers become friends. Confident guys (non-nice-guys) become daters.

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A couple of weeks ago, at a relaxing, uneventful Saturday afternoon barbeque, one of the single girls decided to turn up the heat on conversation with a dating dilemma. “Why would a guy”, she asked, as every man with a beer in his hand and no ring on his finger fidgeted nervously, “promise to call after a fantastic first date, and then do nothing but send flirtatious SMS messages for the next two weeks?”

A few quick thinking cads made haste towards the barbeque to compliment the host on his steak flipping techniques and discuss last night’s game. The rest of us found ourselves surrounded by a school of circling single white females, eyeing their prey over a fourth glass of bubbly. As a single male, I knew my chances of surviving this conversation were remote. Ever so carefully, I backed up towards the safety of the kitchen door, mumbling something about a top up.

Hidden behind the walls of my bachelor pad, having survived my near-eunuch experience, I feel it’s now safe to give you the inside scoop on how a guys mind works (or doesn’t work) when it comes to telephone dating procedures. Of course, there are books that will tell you that Mars isn’t that into Venus, because he has the maturity of an eight year old and is really looking for a Mother Earth. Theoretically, they are quite sound, but throw them into the real world and they’re about as useful as a man holding a toilet brush.

I have some wonderful female friends. Some single, some in relationships. Like you, they are all sexy, intriguing and intelligent women. Yet, you all suffer from a common condition. I call it Men-agitus. You caught it the first time some midget Romeo stole a kiss on the merry-go-round at pre-school morning break, and dropped you for a Tonka truck and a sandpit by lunch. As a result, you seem to spend a significant portion of your lives analysing men’s actions and words. In the case of communication, the answer is really quite simple. Men don’t really enjoy speaking with women on the phone. Ok, maybe if the conversation turns a little flirtatious our ears prick up, but for the most part, the very thought scares us to death. You have blackbelts in voice boxing. It’s what you do. Your aim is to see if we are capable of stimulating your mind with our least exercised organ. Our objective is to get off the phone whilst you are still interested enough to see us again.

In face-to-face land, we don’t need to solely rely on our bogus communication skills. We can flash our boyish smiles, tenderly hold your hand, make stupid jokes, or attempt handstands. Anything to distract you from what we have to say. As visual creatures, we feel right at home here. We can gauge your reaction to our antics, read your body language, and take peeks at your cleavage when you’re not looking.

On the phone, we feel naked and exposed. Sometimes we might be. Once you stop talking, we are expected to reply, and we know you are listening intently with those inbuilt radars. We open our mouths and the words are almost too terrified to come out. We can feel your analysing mind ticking over asking, “What did he mean by that?” “How is getting your dog stoned funny?” between “mm hmm”’s and deafening silence. Our confidence falters as we grasp for insightful comments and sweet anecdotes. It really hurts our brains, alright?

Then along comes SMS, beep beeping like a beacon of light towards the shallow world of manhood, offering the perfect weapon against verbal interaction. We can make you feel desired whilst having a beer with our mates at the pub. We have time to deliver the perfect funny line. It enables us to absorb your probing questions and reply with confidence. Even end the conversation with a suggestive rendezvous, without committing to a date, and still come out looking good.

You want to know why a guy sends you endless text messages and never calls? Think of his mind as a refrigerator. If he’s insatiable for a taste of you the next day, he slips you between his leftover pizza and six-pack of beer. If he’s not that keen, you’re his spaghetti bolognaise. A delicious dish, but he doesn’t really want you two nights running. So he’s put you on ice between the brunette behind the bank counter, and the redhead from the gym.

So what’s the answer if you really like the guy? Stop making it easy for him to keep you at arms length. He’s riding Message Street and there’s no sign of traffic. If you want him, you have to turn the tables. It’s time to get out of the party pies, and into the pepperoni. It means taking the SMS game to the trenches. Where the hunter becomes the hunted and one false move can be fatal.

Simon’s Recipe To Turn Swaggering Players into Begging, Pleading, Ground you Walk on Worshippers in 4 Easy Steps!

Step Number One - Resistance. Never succumb to those naughty midnight messages. He’s drunk, alone and horny. Leave him to marinade a while. Ignore for at least three days.

Step Number Two - Set The Bait. Send a short reply telling him you’ve been busy, hope he’s well, and you’ll catch up soon.

Step Number Three - Be Patient As The Fish Nibbles. The male ego is easy pickings. When he messages, and he will, leave it a day before replying with confident, yet faint interest. Suggest he calls you some time, but not today, as you are tired from all your socialising of late. Note: be sure to use a word like socialising. In the male mind this translates to “flirting, and possibly more, with the competition.”

Step Number Four - Reel The Sucker In. His imagination will be running wild by now. When he calls, be friendly but not over-enthusiastic. If he asks to meet you within the next 3 days, stick him on a plate, glad wrap him, and plonk him behind your box of choccy’s and half finished bottle of bubbly. If he suggests next week, pull him off the hook, tell him to kiss your proverbial goodbye, and throw him back in the sea.

Now you may be wondering why I’m telling you all this. Do I think it’s time one of us was finally honest with women? Am I saddened by the pain women experience as a result of my thoughtless gender? Have I had enough of consoling broken-hearted female friends on a Friday night - when my plan was to go out for a few drinks, laughs, and be introduced to their gorgeous, promiscuous girlfriends? Did I hope that revealing sacred male secrets would provide a new angle for picking up at parties? Yes, to all of the above. Hey, don’t give me that look…I’m just a guy!

Now you know our game, it’s time to unleash hell.

Simon Hillier is a freelance writer based in Sydney, Australia. His company, Get There, provides copywriting, travel writing, feature articles, scripts and ebooks that leap out of the mundane masses to do cartwheels for your audience. For more articles and further information visit www.getthere.com.au

In real life, law rarely forgives any wrong act. In most of the countries law is clear about punishment. We still hear a lot about forgiving in personal relationships. We are told to forgive the major blunders. We are asked to forgive and forget and continue living as if nothing happened. Does that work? To some extent yes, and to some extent no.

Most of us who have been hurt in relationship do not wish to forgive at all. The result is that we suffer from the pain all our life. We are advised to forgive so that at least we can feel peaceful. If we do not forgive, our own peace is lost forever and we suffer. Forgiveness is for us. To forgive does not always mean that the abuser can continue with the same behavior. You need not tell the abuser that you have forgiven him/her. Let them suffer for what they did. But by forgiving in your own mind, you get peace.

Relationship after forgiving - the relationship can never continue at the same level and intensity after any mistake has been made. No amount of forgiveness can ever bring the relation back.

Bringing relationship back - I have said earlier that no relationship will return to the same old level after a major mistake has been committed. This is true. But what if the partners want to bring it back to the old level? How should they proceed? In this case, the abuser should ask for forgiveness again and again. Only after the victim is satisfied, the forgiveness can become effective to the extent that relationship comes back to normal.

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Online dating has reached such levels of popularity that it is now becoming more acceptable than it used to. In fact, due to the innumerable stories about successful relationships that started off as an online partnership, people are turning to this alternative way of looking for a partner. Whether you are new to the idea or you’ve been online for years, one key to online dating success is your profile. Online, you are what your profile says. In short, everything you are is summed up in one page on the Internet.

The first way to create a stand out profile is to come up with a catchy profile headline and screen name. This is usually what people see first. So put all you have into writing an attention grabber. However, avoid being a copy cat. Instead, be original. This will also serve you well in the long run. If you show something of the real you, then there is no need to pretend at any point in the relationship. Before writing that headline, think long and hard about how you perceive yourself and how your friends see you. Try to remember what they say are your best qualities. Choose the ones you agree with, and then write them down. Do not ramble on and on. Decide what you want to say and say it. Lastly, be fresh and positive. Exude a vibrant aura and you will attract people to your profile. As for your screen name, the same thing applies. Be positive and unique. It may take you a little while to come up with something but it will be worth your effort.

To put a photo or not? That is the question. Some people prefer not to place their pictures on the net. The rationale is this: it shouldn’t matter what I look like, other people should like me for who I am. That is well and good. However, online dating websites testify to the fact that people who include a flattering photo in their profiles get responses 8 times more than those who do not. If you want to get more responses, then have a picture taken – from your most flattering angle – and include it in your profile.

Emphasize your unique traits. What makes you different? Help the other person understand you a little bit. Be detailed just to the point of avoiding vagueness. A little caution should be exercised here. It is fine for you to give some personal information but refrain from being too personal. It is not a good idea to vent out your problems and issues you are dealing with.

Make your expectations clear. What do you really want out of a relationship? Is this just a fling or something more stable? Mention what the other person can expect from you as well. Talk about your hobbies and things that you like to do with your partner. This way, the unsuitable candidates will not waste time – yours and his/hers.

All throughout the profile writing process bear in mind two things: honesty and originality. These will get you a long way.

By Philip Nicosia

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How do you attract love? How do you attract someone to love you? What do you do so that somebody comes forward and says- I love you? This is a very important question, because many of us are hungry for love that we never get. Let me talk about confidence. Does having confidence attract love?

Let us talk about your self. Do you get attracted to anybody who shows no confidence? Do you madly love anybody who is unsure about everything? Do you fall in romantic love with a person whose very walk and talk shows a very timid person? I do not think many of us will do that. We may pity that person. We may advise that person. But we will never love that person. For loving a person, we have to find a person who commands respect from us. Confidence can do that trick. Let us discuss about confidence and love.

Love and confidence- if you are a confident looking person, you have to take care of over confidence. Do you look aggressive or act smart at all the times? If yes, that can drive people away from you. We all love and respect a confident person, but not somebody who declares that he/she knows all the answers and is infallible. If you lack in confidence, you have to develop it with systematic analysis of your fears and doubts. Why do you have low confidence? Find out the reasons. Are you lacking in abilities or are afraid of using them or you area pessimist? Please think about your confidence level and increase it.

We get attracted to a person who commands respect from us. Confident looking people command respect. Develop confidence to win in the game of love.

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