Jealousy is a whole bundle of feelings that tend to get lumped together. It is one of the most destructive and painful emotions in a dating relationship. Jealousy is about fear of losing power of control in a relationship. Jealousy is sweet sometimes, but in moderation. Too much jealousy can destroy a relationship, because is driving a wedge between the two.

You have a relationship for a long time with an amazing girl, you love her very much, but the problem is that she is very jealous and that’s why you are arguing a lot. You don’t want to lose her so you have to deal with it.

But she is over reacting: she calls you in the middle of the night to make sure that you are at home, she is checking your mobile phone, calls you when you go out with your friends to see where you are and how much you stay or becomes very angry when she sees you looking or talking with any other girl. Also she gets suspicious and make accusations which are not all heartfelt, it’s teasing you a lot, accuse you of being unfaithful even if there is no basis for her to think this way. After a while you are enough of all this, but you are ready to make all the sacrifices you can to understand her and make her stop with all these.

There are many reasons we feel jealous and though it is a normal human emotion to feel. Jealousy comes from insecurity. Maybe she is afraid that you will see another girl and suddenly like her more that you like her. So, try to not give her many reasons to feel jealous. Avoid looking at other girls in her presence, don’t compare her with other girls, don’t exclude her from your future plans and also avoid having female best friends. If you have already a best female friend and don’t want to lose any of them, you should try meeting them both and making them become friends.

No matter the reasons why she feels jealous, you should try to understand why she feels that way. As an example, maybe she can’t deal with the fact that before her you had a girlfriend, your first girlfriend with whom you stayed more than with her, you loved her, but all is over because she betrayed you. But your actual girlfriend doesn’t want to accept that, and continues to be jealous on her. Explain her that she has to accept that we all have a past and move on because that past isn’t going to change, and assure her that she is the only one for you.

Maybe all of us which have a relationship for some time and love their partner are sometimes a little jealous. Think about it: how would you feel to see her at school or work talking with other guys, and comes and tells you how great they are, wouldn’t you be jealous? Or maybe there are some people around her that you don’t like and don’t trust in them, and then you see that you are jealous too. A little bit of jealousy is healthy, but in her case, which is over reacting, she may  need some help from you to get over it.

The best thing you can do to deal with your jealous girlfriend and to not break up with her is to talk sincere with her and tell her how you feel. Also be faithful to her and explain her that you know that relationships are based on trust so you are going to be sincere with her all the time. Communicate sincerely and with calm and tell her she needs to get her self – esteem in check, because she is splinting you apart.  Having a heart to heart discussion and explain her that all this jealous behavior will drive you away. Often an honest exchange of feelings will solve the problem.

The jealousy often ruined the relationship because it push away the other partner  more and more with every fight and argue they had; after some time the partner which is accused all the time had enough and leave. But if you really love her and want that your relationship continues, make an agree both, to stop arguing so much. You will not give her so many reasons to be jealous, and she will try to not call you so many times a day.

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After a break up, you might decide not to get into a serious relationship again because you are afraid of getting hurt once more. You may even fear that you might not find another person because your self-esteem was shattered. Feelings of not being good enough for anyone might lurk in your mind. This is quite normal to experience.
First, you must stop thinking and talking about him or her. Easier said than done right? No matter how difficult it seems, you must stop contacting or spying on your ex. If you continue this behavior, you will never forget about him or her.
Return their things or dispose them. It is a way of assuring yourself that you have really accepted that the relationship is over. Keep the gifts, photographs and cards that you have received out of your sight. Even consider changing your telephone number. This will keep you from waiting by the phone for him or her to call.
What is the worst thing that can happen from the break up? You definitely have learned something from the relationship, about yourself and your partner. It’s up to you to answer that.
But what is more important is to get on with your life. It is not the end of the world. You still have your family, friends, and career ahead of you.
You can make new friends that may develop into better relationships. You can do things that you wanted done but held on because he did not like it.
Sitting alone in your house or apartment sulking away is a waste of time and energy. Figuring a way to get even may satisfy you to a certain extent but it does not benefit you in any other way.
Remember that they are getting on with their life and you are wasting yours away. The best thing you can do is to work on yourself, on your personal goals.
Start a journal. Writing down your feelings, thoughts and emotions is therapeutic. You are able to keep track of how you are managing your life after your loved one is gone.
Keeping a journal will allow you to see the growth you make after the break up. Write down your daily activities and your observations including the people you meet and the things you do either at work or at home.
You will realize that there are actually many things that are going on around you. It will also help you see a new relationship building up.
When you are ready to move on, try online dating. It is safer than going out to the bar. Additionally there are many free sites on the internet that offer the same features as the paid sites. There has been a lot of positive feedback with TheBadge.org. They offer free background investigations for all of their members as well as Chat Rooms, Public Forums, Instant Messaging, and more.
If all else fails, consult a relationship expert. You know you need one when you have developed the suicidal tendencies.

By: Kenneth J. Bachman

Kenneth Bachman is a freelance writer as well as a relationship advisor. Kenneth has a masters degree in Psychology.

When you know that you have found the perfect woman for you, make sure that she feels the same about you. You are crazy about her and want to make her feel happy with you, that’s why you are ready to make all the sacrifices to impress her, to show her how much you care about her, or to not permit that routine to come into your relationship.

With all this sacrifices to show her your feelings, to keep your relationship as cool as it was at the beginning, you feel that you have to make something more interesting. That’s why you should induce “magic “into your relationship even if you are hopeless romantic or not.  To add more intimacy, love, understanding and compassion in any relationship is always welcome.

So, here are some magical things to do in order to impress your partner in a good way and increase your relationship:

1.Surprise her by taking her lunch and coffee at bed right after she woke up; if you didn’t do this before she will definitely be impressed; also cooking a pizza for her and cut it in a heart shape it is very romantic; a woman will always find interesting a man who is able to cook for her, no matter what kind of food it is;  even if it wouldn’t be too tasty, she will appreciate that you have tried

2.Set up a picnic in the park; even it is an usually day, prepare all you need for a picnic, go get your girlfriend and go for a walk; don’t tell her from the beginning what you plan to, let it be a surprise; a ‘ going out’ at a picnic in the fresh air is always welcome and relaxing

3.Send her flowers anytime and anywhere, that is unexpected; women love flowers, so sending her flowers without any reason will demonstrate her that you really care about  and make her feel loved and special; the most probably that she will answer you with the same love you show her

4.Fill her apartment with balloons or something she likes, maybe it’s a crazy idea, but it usually works to impress girls; it will be seen as a funny thing by your partner and remember that some fun is necessary in any relationship

5.If you are good at writing, write her a poem, or create a book for her with a special dedication; this will definitely work if she  love poems;  don’t begin to write a poem only if you know that you are good at it, other way you will screw up

6.Reading romantic poetry in the middle of the living room on a blanket in soft candlelight, it is a very good way to offer your partner a  wonderful evening; women are often more romantic than men, that’s why they like to be surprised by men with romantic ideas

7.Massages are always magic when done right; buying different flavored edible  bars to experiment with each other can be more surprising; but if you are not good at making massage, go to a spa together and get a couples massage together

8.Go for a romantic meal; make reservations at a beautiful restaurant and create a romantic atmosphere with candles, roses and slow music; offer her a night to never forget

9.Going for a walk at night and looking at the stars and moon is almost such romantic as the restaurant, and is cheapest; so it is not necessary to have a lot of  money to offer your partner a lovely evening; it can be very interesting

10.If you can afford it, take her in holiday in an exotic place, like a beautiful island, only you two alone, with sunshine and plenty of water, where you will spend a wonderful time together, and will not be disturb by friends, family, relatives

11.But, if you can’t afford to go in a exotic place, to the sea,  there’s no problem; bubble baths together are always magic times;

12.Surprise visits; surprise her with your visits when she is not expecting at all; while you are able to surprise her in a good way, she will not lose interest in you

13.Don’t be afraid to talk sweet nothings into her ear; make the woman feel good by saying sweet and romantic things to her at any given time; as i sad, women love romance

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Dating is a beautiful way to find a partner. Dating gives us an opportunity to know our prospective partner better and vice versa. With dating, we can decide if we are made for each other? If we succeed in taking a proper decision we will have a smooth life ahead that will have no pot holes on the way. Before we begin dating, should we not know ourselves better? Our personality, our strengths and weaknesses and what are we seeking from our partner?

Do you want to find someone who you can love as much as you want, or are you looking for someone who will love you to satisfy your need of being loved? This is important to know. Some of us never got as much love as we wanted, so we look around for a partner who will make us feel satisfied and worthy of love. Or we may wish to find a person who we can love to our hearts desire. This is important distinction and please look into your motives before searching for a dating partner. In either of the cases you will be looking forward to a different kind of person to succeed.

Are you confident about yourself? Do you feel threatened if you commit? Does the thought of living with someone you know only for a small time fill you with anxiety? Many of us are not ready to commit at all. After some time of dating, such people break the relationship because they feel threatened. If you are such a person, think about your mental makeup carefully and better talk about this to your dating partner or a friend in whom you have faith. Feeling threatened will always make you back out at the last moment and your efforts will always go waste without your realizing the real reason.

Are you looking for a partner who will protect you from this world. Like a little kid, do you want to go back to Mom and feel safe. If that is the case, please search for someone who wants to protect his/her beloved. To know about yourself and to find out what you are seeking in a relationship that will make you happy is essential to find out who fits the bill for you. Please find out more about yourself before entering the beautiful game of dating.

By: cdmohatta

Writing for fun quizzes on love & dating, screensavers and free ecards is the hobby of CD Mohatta. He writes on motivation, management, nature, spirituality, holidays and more. He also writes personality quizzes and fun tests.

Most people want very much to have someone special in their life that they can love and count on through the toughest times. Having a partner or mate is important to plenty of people, but finding the right person to have a long-term relationship can be a little difficult. The search for a partner can also mean experiences of choosing the wrong person and a few short-term relationships that don’t work. Knowing how to choose the right person and what to look for can mean the difference between a lot of heartaches and a happy relationship with that perfect person.

The old adage that opposites attract is true, but when you’re seeking out the perfect partner, avoid someone that you don’t have anything in common with. There may be great chemistry at first and you may be very interested in someone different from you. Opposites do attract – for a while. Statistics aren’t on your side for a long-term relationship with someone who is your opposite. Once you’ve gone through the fireworks of the first six months, you’ll discover that your chosen partner lives a very different life from yours and you won’t be compatible.

When looking for the perfect partner or mate, take a good long look inside yourself. Who you are and what your needs and requirements are the critical first steps in choosing a partner. What are you goals in life? If you have no idea of where you are going, then how would you know who you would want to go with you? Think of the things that you enjoy that you’d like to share with someone else. Having common interests is important for a long-term relationship.

Think about your morals, values, and beliefs. A long-term relationship with a perfect partner for you is someone that believes in the same things you do. If you choose someone with different morals or values, chances are the both of you will end up arguing often over what is right or which choice is the best.

Become the confident person who can and will attract the kind of person you want in your life. Confidence, not conceit, is very attractive. No one wants to be around a person with too many insecurities. There is truth to that old saying “To Thine Own Self Be True.” If you are not honest with yourself about you, then your search is almost doomed from the start. Everyone has emotional needs, and our natural tendency is to find someone that fills the void of what is missing. We can easily choose the wrong person if our motivation is to find someone to boost our self-confidence. Those issues should be settled before you enter into a relationship.

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