You might think I’ve lost my mind, but it’s true.

A lot of guys just won’t get it.

And it’s not because they’re not smart enough or somehow defective…

In fact, it’s a subconscious choice, that they have made unknowingly.

I know what you’re thinking.

“How can I make sure I’m not one of those guys?”

Am I right?

Well I’m here to tell you how. You will probably never hear what I’m about to say from other gurus because it’s such a very subtle but very powerful fix that most leave it out of the equation.

Meet Matt. Matt’s a good guy, likes to be social and has taken a bootcamp with another one of the pickup companies. But Matt still doesn’t get the success he really wants; in fact he’s not successful at all.

“Vin, why don’t you help him!?”

There are a couple reasons why I don’t help Matt out. One being he’s too set in his ways and is stubborn.

BUT, that’s not the real reason. If Matt was only stubborn I’d have an easy time changing his mind about things.

The real reason why I can’t help him is the same reason why he isn’t successful with women.

I’ve already said Matt’s a good guy, but every time I talk to him I get the feeling like he wants something from me. In fact a lot of our mutual friends have said the same thing to me about him.

We don’t like hanging out with Matt and neither do women.

Matt always give this vibe of having an ulterior motive. He talks to you like a friend, which is great, but he naturally gives off a vibe that says to me that he’s trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me.

The same thing happens to Matt when he’s talking to women. He treats them in a friendly manner and is funny but always gives off this vibe that on another level he has an underlying intention.

Having intentions with women isn’t a bad thing. If you express your sexual intentions openly they’ll acceptable it, especially if you have tight game. It may even turn them on. IN FACT it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.

But if you hide your intentions you come off as creepy and weird. Women won’t trust you or feel safe being around you alone. You could be the best actor in the world but… THEY WILL KNOW.

Being creepy is the “Death” card in the Tarot deck of your love life. It will kill any chance of success you might have.

So now you know what might be going wrong. How do you fix it?

Well to start off you need to begin being fun and unattached to the outcome whenever you can. It’s not about giving back money. It could be anything from telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends. It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a woman.

Be out there talking to women not only because you want to pickup, but because women are amazing and fun and interesting and wonderful.

Next you need to start doing is being clear about your intentions. This doesn’t mean directly telling a girl “The whole purpose of me talking to you is so that I can get into your pants.” That’s going to kill your pickup about as fast as being creepy.

There are small subtle changes you can make in your behavior that will affect how your intentions are perceived and if you’re congruent with what you’re saying. There are so many small fixes that I could write a novel on them.

Do you want to read a novel about fixing your creepy vibe and then taking the months to implement it that it will require? I didn’t think so. I wouldn’t want to spend the months writing that novel either.

By: Vin DiCarlo

Vin DiCarlo is a professional pick up artist trainer, who’s highly controversial website may be found at www.vindicarlo.com

Our romantic relationships have the potential to bring us great happiness but can also be the source of great pain and suffering. At the start of a relationship we fall ‘head over heals’ in love and it seems that our dream has come true. Unfortunately these joyous feelings can fade and then we struggle to feel love for our partner. So how can we re-discover those wonderful feelings that we experienced at the start of the relationships?

Here are ten things you can do that will improve your relationship and will allow you to fall in love with your partner all over again!

1. Relationship difficulties may be painful but they represent the best chance you and your partner have to heal your insecurities and build a better relationship. Within each problem is an issue that both of you have, that is driving you apart - try to see problems as opportunities for improving the relationship. The trick is to find out what the emotional issue is at the heart of the problem.

2. Whenever you feel emotional pain in a relationship, resist the temptation to move away from your partner. This is the very time you need each other. Take courage and move towards your partner both physically and emotionally.

3. Communication about feelings and fears is what heals relationships. Always make this your objective. Try to find out what your partner is feeling. Expressing your own feelings with honesty and sensitivity will encourage your partner to do the same. Remember even bad behaviour is a form of communication!

4. Nobody can make you feeling anything that you are not already feeling subconsciously. It is hidden and unhealed emotional pain that is triggered by your partner’s behaviour. Be willing to gain emotional awareness, take responsibility and heal these insecurities. As Ghandi said – ‘be the change you want to see in the world” – the same applies in our relationships.

5. Appreciate your partner for all their strengths, gifts and beauty - tell them and show them how much you love them. This is what you did when you fell in love with them, and it will work throughout your relationship. There is no reason that the ‘Honeymoon’ stage of a relationship cannot last forever.

6. If you feel let down by your partner or feel that they are not giving you something important in the relationship, give them exactly the thing you are lacking. Almost magically they will then give you the same thing back!

7. Sex can be a beautiful celebration of love in a relationship - this is why we call it making love! Allow sex to move from a purely physical experience to one that is full of shared emotion – pour love into your partner as you have sex and make strong eye contact. If you have a spiritual belief, you can take sex to the highest Tantric level of physical, emotional and spiritual connection, where it feel like you become one with your partner.

8. If you have had a row, apologise for any of your own bad behaviour and recognise that your partner will also be feeling bad. Move towards them, forgive and re-connect as soon as you can. Start the meaningful communication about what lies at the heart of the argument.

9. If you are having really big problems in your relationship and you believe in a higher or spiritual power, then ask for help and guidance. In this way you will find the inspiration to work through the most tragic or painful situations. If you do not have a spiritual or religious belief, ask for help from your higher or intuitive mind.

10. Relationships fail because we allow a distance to appear between us and our partner. What we give in a relationship is what we receive. How much are you unconditionally giving to your partner? Give to your partner without any expectation of receiving and you will soon find that the joy and love returns to the relationship.

By: Peter J Granger

Peter Granger is an acclaimed relationship and life coach. He has recently launched a book – True Love, The Amazing Truth about Love Relationships & Life. For more practical tips and advice about relationships and dating or for information about his book go to www.iloveyouloveme.com/

Confidence with women? When it comes to meeting women online or in person, there is one thing that sets apart the men who get emails, texts, phone numbers, and ultimately, hot dates from the men who sit at home, wishing the women they are emailing would write them back.

That one thing is confidence.

Women love men who are confident, and they can sniff out men who lack confidence faster than you can type ‘Asian mail order brides’ into your favorite search engine.

If you’re a man who’s got plenty of confidence, keep reading as a quick refresher.

If you’re a man who’s lacking confidence, sit down, read carefully, and get ready to take some notes while I outline the rules of confidence with women.

And until you master confidence, hold off on searching for ‘making out tips’. Sadly, my friend, without confidence, you probably won’t even make it to the first date.

1) Don’t put yourself down. Especially not to get reassurance or to fish for compliments. Women naturally want to give compliments and say nice things about you. But if you go around saying things with a “poor old me” attitude, then women will either refrain from saying anything, or even worse, toss you a few reassuring statements out of pity. And guess what? Women don’t date men that they pity.

2) Don’t assume the worst. Don’t let a hint of rejection creep into your thoughts because then it will bleed over into your words and actions. When you email a woman, don’t assume she’ll reject you by asking her up-front to tell you why she might not want to go out with you. Confident men know that women want to date them, and they don’t give women the impression that they are not even capable of being rejected.

And even though this drives women crazy…it drives them crazy in a good way—the way that will make a woman wonder what it is about you that’s so magnetic. Keep this attitude and you’ll probably have more women than you can probably pursuing you!

3) Fake it until you make it. Even if you don’t feel the confidence right away, if you ACT like you have it, women will treat you as though you already are confident. And when they treat you as though you already have it, your confidence will naturally increase.

By: Dave M 1

Dave M. is the author of Insider Internet Dating: Discover how an average guy met 398 women with online personals — using an embarrassingly simple, dummy proof, internet dating ‘routine’ that works nearly every time. He also publishes a free internet dating tips newsletter, available at www.insiderinternetdating.com

Whether you’re new to meeting women online, or you’ve got multiple online dating profiles at several different sites, I think you’ll benefit from incorporating a few of my scientifically tested email writing tips that will help you get more responses from the women you’re trying to meet.

There are 2 rules of thumb to go by when it comes to writing these emails.
1) People like people who are like themselves.
2) People like people who like them.

In order for a woman to begin to believe that you like her and that the two of you are indeed alike, you’ll have to speak to her on a personal level. A good way to talk to talk to women is to treat her like she’s the only woman in the room, so to speak.

This means you need to do your homework by reading through her profile and finding ways to make her feel as though she’s the only woman you’re talking to.

You can still continue to email as many women as you’d like, but steer clear of using an obvious cut and paste email template that makes the woman feel like she’s one of many on an assembly line.

You can also give her a compliment—but watch out for going overboard here. There’s a fine line between simple admiration and begging for her approval. And with most women, erring on the side of less is better than more will go a long way in building up some intrigue about you in her mind.

So don’t be excessively gushy. And definitely don’t throw in any cheesy pickup lines.

Your email should also include a question or two, asking the woman to expand on something she mentioned in her profile. Be careful not to sound too eager with this as well. Your question can be as simple as, “I see that you said you’re into parasailing. I’ve always thought that looked fun. How long have you been doing that?”

And finally, one of the most important online dating secrets is crafting a good subject line. If the subject line isn’t intriguing, she probably won’t even open your email—which would be a waste of the time you spent writing the actual email.

Concentrate on writing subject lines that are conversational. It’s also useful to work a question or challenge based on something she mentioned in her profile into the subject line.

Be creative and have fun with it. If you mess up with one woman, there are always plenty more out there to talk to!

By: Dave M 1

Dave M. is the author of Insider Internet Dating: Discover how an average guy met 398 women with online personals — using an embarrassingly simple, dummy proof, internet dating ‘routine’ that works nearly every time. He also publishes a free internet dating tips newsletter, available at www.insiderinternetdating.com

In this article, we’re going to talk about the common mistakes most all men make when trying to get their girlfriend back. Pay close attention because you’re probably doing at least some of these things without even knowing it. If you want her back bad enough, you’ll read on.

1. Telling her you love her over and over again.

Don’t act like a little puppy dog and beg for her back. She’ll just lose respect for you and you’ll only end up pushing her further away from you than she already is. A lot of guys thing the reason she left them is because they didn’t verbalize their love enough when in fact this is usually never true.

2. Buying her flowers and other such gifts.

Bribery isn’t going to work when getting your girlfriend back. That’s actually how women interpret it you know. As bribery and they think it’s pathetic. Save the flowers for the relationship; not the breakup.

3. Acting depressed and sad in order to make her feel sorry for you.

Acting like a little puppy dog isn’t going to win you any points either. This just makes you look desperate and thus pushes her further and further away from you. Man up and pull yourself together.

4. Generally being overly nice in order to “win her over”.

Again, acting overly nice will be interpreted by your ex as you being a little puppy dog. I’m not saying you should suddenly start acting like a jerk (that won’t get you anywhere either). There is a line to be drawn and generally kissing up to your ex girlfriend will only cause her to lose respect for you.

5. Using guilt to get her back. Kids, money, etc.

I see a lot of guys trying to manipulate their ex girlfriends with kids, money and other such things. You can make her feel as guilty as you want but that will not get back the one thing you need in droves (attraction). This type of behavior will only make her resent you all the more.

6. Attempting to persuade her with reason and logic to get back with you.

Us men are very logical creatures. We think that everything can be fixed logically. Attempting to persuade your ex girlfriend to go back out with you (for whatever reason) will only push her away. She doesn’t want to hear logic, she wants to feel emotion. Emotion is the key.

7. Doing absolutely nothing.

And finally, doing absolutely nothing will definitely ensure your failure. There are very specific steps you can follow to get your ex girlfriend back. These steps are based on advanced female psychology.

To sum everything up, you can’t use cheap manipulation that women can see right though when attempting to get your ex back. Buying her presents, using guilt, making her feel sorry for you, telling her you love her (with an agenda), using logic and reason (when women will only respond to emotion). Don’t feel bad though; almost every guy going through a breakup does these things. There are plenty of things you CAN do however.

By: Dallas Duvoux

For methods and techniques (that really work) on how to get your girlfriend back click the following link: www.exgirlfriendguru.com