Your search for love could start online

Love is a chemistry which exists between two people either on the first meeting or builds up with time and more meetings. However, to initiate this you would first have to be in contact with the person and then see if it happens or not. So to find love, your first move is to meet with persons with whom this possibility may arise. You do not really go about much, not many social engagements outside the family circle, and with a result all those that you know do not fall into that category. So to find love, how is it going to happen?

Give yourself a chance to find love

Do not lock your self away from the doors of love. You must meet people with whom this magic could happen. If going to social gatherings with acquaintances, or meeting up with friends at parties, pubs and bars is not your cup of tea, you will have to go about this to find love on line.

You would first have to register online on a find love site. For this you will have to give your personal profile, maybe put your photograph on it too, with details of your age, some description of yourself and your likes, dislikes, hobbies etc. This will initiate the process of others who are also in the same boat as you and trying to find love, finding you on line and communicating with you. It could also be the other way round and you could make the first move if you find someone who is of interest to you at least by way of their profile.

Do not be negative in your approach

If you want to find love you will have to have a positive approach to meeting people and have an open mind that there will be some one nice who will be able to meet all your needs in a companion and who will reciprocate your feeling too. Obviously those who approach you will be people who have read your profile and will know what to expect from you when they do communicate with you. So be prepared for someone who is looking for the qualities that you have and not someone who is going to find you totally different to what they want.

In any case you will have some options to choose from and need not be in a hurry to make up your mind. You can chat and then shortlist some and finally meet up and decide whether this is what you were looking for. The good thing is that you can go about all this while taking your time and need not have any feelings of regret or commitment until you want to do so.

Look for love and find love

There is hope for everyone to get that perfect someone that they have been searching for. The online sites give people so much more room to decide from and with this almost unlimited choice it should not be difficult to find that one ideal match for your self.

By: Alan Lim

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Remember the early days of your dating relationship? What a time you both had. It seemed like every moment you got together it was music, fun and excitement. Some of your family and friends even hated to see you coming because the two of you were so into each other it made people nauseous. You are probably right when you say they were just jealous. And guess what? Neither one of you could have cared less. The relationship was fresh, spontaneous and exhilarating.

And then it happened. You cannot quite put your finger on when exactly it took place but it happened. Whether it occurred sometime after you got married or six months into your dating relationship is inconsequential. All you know is the music, fun and excitement went on permanent vacation. What took their place? The routine.

One of the mains reasons many couples get blind sided by the routine is the seduction of familiarity. You naturally want to become well acquainted with the other person in the hopes that it leads to greater intimacy between the two of you. That is the point of relationships. Unfortunately, familiarity also inspires a certain amount of self-satisfaction. In other words consciously or unconsciously, many couples tell themselves the prize has been won so there is no need to continue the game.

While some people do not consider this a big deal, in essence it is a planted seed that can spell trouble somewhere down the road. It is only a hop, skip and a jump from familiarity to routine to dissatisfaction.

Now there is no question that your relationship is going to have certain amount of routine due, in some part to circumstances beyond your control; for instance your work schedules may only allow the two of you to get together on specific days and times. However there are things you can do to keep the relationship fresh:

1. The Thrill of the Impulsive

When your relationship was just starting out, spontaneity ruled. The two of you did not even think twice about hopping into a car and going to places you had never been or trying out a new restaurant with food you never heard of. There was something thrilling and wonderful about not knowing what you were getting into yet still having the courage to explore anyway.

Routine tells you to be rational and self conscious. What if people are looking or you run into someone you both know? The answer is “who cares?” Sure being spontaneous may not work out every time but do it anyway and go with the flow. Unplanned adventures big or little have a way of adding excitement and in many cases some serious laughs to the relationship which is very healthy and great way to reconnect.

2. It is Not Your Birthday

Or anniversary or any other major routine event but do not let that stop you from buying small gifts for each other. In fact you can just as easily create your own special days. It could be the anniversary of your third date or the time you both laughed through the worst movie you ever saw. Occasionally giving a small gift for no particular reason lets the other person know that they are always in your heart.

3. Date Again

Not just going out to dinner either because that also can become routine. Instead plan a time outside of your normal schedules and treat it like you did during the early days of the relationship. Get yourselves spruced up. Go at it with the mindset that you are making every effort to make a good impression. Having a special time together at least once a week can throw a beautiful monkey wrench into the routine machine. .

It is nothing out of the ordinary for a relationship to lose some of its zing over time. The problem comes when couples accept the routine as normal and do not do anything to restore the excitement and unpredictability they once had. You can always reverse the process by being spontaneous, give small gifts for no reason other than to let the other person know you love them and start dating again like it is the first time. This all requires constant effort but the payoff of an exciting relationship is well worth it.

By: Daryl Campbell

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Be purposeful

Gentlemen: now hear me through. I am going to talk to you about perhaps the most important thing you need to do to become a master dater like me. The key to success in this game is simply this: keep it purposeful.

What in the heck does that mean?

It means being in control of your life in every way. Let me be more specific.

1.Be purposeful in mind: be aware of where you are, what you’re doing, and what is around you – AT ALL TIMES. Don’t get lost in your head thinking about some useless event in the past or one that has yet to occur. This leads us to:

2.Be purposeful in speech: Think about what you’re going to say before you say it. Don’t just blurt out the first thing(s) that come to mind. Be thoughtful, be confident, and speak accordingly.

3.Be purposeful in voice tone: Besides thinking about what you’re going to say, think about how you’re going to say it. Use an assertive tone of voice, speak slowly and deliberately, use tonal variations as opposed to speaking in a monotone. And while you’re speaking purposefully and using voice tones to your advantage….

4.Be purposeful with eye contact: Ahh, this is a real key. Bore into her soul with your eyes. Don’t ever lose eye contact, keep staring deeply into her eyes until she looks away first. Watch that faint blush overtake her face. You’ve got her now, gents!

5.Be purposeful with movement: No surprise here. Think about your body language and what it conveys. Folding your arms is closed and insecure. Use body positions that are confident yet approachable. Don’t fidget. Lean towards her when she speaks. Don’t look down when you speak – remember – eye contact!

6.Be purposeful with posture: Taking purposeful movement one step further, think about your posture. How do you usually stand? Are you slouched and slumped or straight and self-confident? Stand tall and proud guys: a little arrogance never hurt anyone!!

Rafael Corney is a dating coach and has decided to put his knowledge to the Internet, and help thousands of (classy young) men to learn and master the skills that are essential for a long lasting relationship as well as how to spark the attraction that a woman can feel in his “zone”.
He can be reached at his blog, don’t forget the quiz at
www.Rafael-Corney.com

By: Rafael Corney

Are you the sort of guy who never gets lucky? It doesn’t matter how romantic the restaurant or how stunning the sunset, every date you go on ends with a peck on the cheek and the news that you’re “just like a brother”?

You can’t understand it. You meet these great girls, you pluck up the courage to ask them out and they obviously like you enough to say yes. But by the end of the evening whatever attraction they may have felt has melted down into nothing more than friendship.

You don’t know where you’re going wrong.

But I do.

You see, while you may instantly like the looks of someone, genuine attraction takes a little longer to form. Connections are based on more than a nice suit and some good manners, and if all you’ve got to offer is pleasant conversation you’re never going to get a girl excited.

But I’m here to help. There are all sorts of tricks you can use to get and keep a girl’s attention, and I’m about to tell you some of the best.

Remember that the first date is like an audition. Whether you’re after one night of fun or something more long term, you need to convince this chick that you know how to treat her right. Hold doors open for her, take her coat, and insist upon footing the bill. Don’t compliment her upon her physical attributes, but do admire her clothes, her choice of wine or her graceful way of walking.

Make your body language work for you. If you don’t seem sure you deserve her attention, she’ll become certain you don’t. Present yourself as a calm and confident man by maintaining eye contact, resisting the urge to fiddle, and talking in a low, clear tone.

Listen to what she’s saying and be genuine with your reactions. Girls can spot a fake grin a mile off, so keep your smiles and your laughter natural. Look for common interests and shared beliefs; being able to enthuse about the same films, music or sports will create an instant connection.

More importantly, keep the conversation light hearted. You want her to view you as a source of fun, not her new confidant, so if she starts to share her worries and woes with you steer the conversation back onto happier topics. Likewise, keep your own dilemmas to yourself – neurotic men do not come across as sexy; mysterious men do.

There’s little more attractive to a woman than knowing you’re really into her, but rather than simply blurting it out, use a few clever body language tricks to let her know you like her. Turn your shoulders and knees so you’re fully facing her, glance at her lips and, if there’s a table between you, place your hands on top of it. Find excuses to reach out and touch her. Start by brushing your hand against hers when you’re emphasizing a point. As the night goes on, touch her arm and, later, her knee. She’ll soon start thinking about other forms of physical contact with you.

There’s a fine line between friendly conversation and effective flirting. By following the tips above, you can keep on the right side of it and grab her attention. Keep the evening fun, the talk upbeat and your focus firmly upon her, and you can ensure that you need never end another date by agreeing to just be friends.

By: Chick Magnet 101

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Recent surveys show that the popular and best places to meet girls are at bars, parties and clubs.

Clubs and bars are generally places where lots of girls hang out with friends, to drink, listen to music, dance and unwind after a days work, or after a week’s busy schedule.

To go somewhere so as to meet girls, keep in mind that you have to choose a certain place that you enjoy, like and is comfortable with, in order for you to find and meet people that likes and enjoys the place as well as you do. Then you have a thing in common and this could be a significant factor in opening up a conversation later.

Meeting girls in bars can be quite difficult, since normally bars are very noisy places. So try to go to certain bars that are not too noisy. Bars having live bands can play severely loud music, requiring you to yell to one another.

When inside a bar, remember to hang around in open areas so you could talk to other individuals easier. Usually clubs have patios or a form of open-air section that can be an ideal place to hang out and have some quite conversation with a girl.

A relaxing and quite atmosphere, away from the crowd and noise inside the bar is an important factor. You must carry a good conversation with a girl effectively for you to obtain her phone number before you part ways.

Lighting also contributes to a calming atmosphere. Find a corner in a bar that is not too dim, as you need to see her expression as you go ahead and talk. If there is adequate lighting, you can see what you are getting, and determine if she is indeed worth your time and effort; away from the loud music, you will have a chance to get acquainted with her better.

At this stage, with no commitment at all, you already have an idea to continue the conversation and ask for her number, or to end the conversation because you simply do not like her.

Her are some helpful guidelines on how to meet girls at clubs:

1. Smile as you enter the club, as this certainly sends out good impression. Surveys show that average looking men who smiles often are found to be more attractive compared to handsome guys who do not smile.

The smile generally indicates that the man is charming, friendly, optimistic and expressive with what he sees and feels and most significantly, he can be easily approached.

2. Seat yourself in the bar and observe. Find a group of girls which you think can welcome your company or a group that sparks your interest. Approach them with a smile and offer them a drink. Start by asking them politely if you can join them and if they answer yes, then introduce yourself and start a conversation.

3. When you do not like a particular girl in the group that you have joined, then you can just enjoy their company or go to the next table of girls.

When you like a particular girl in the group that you have joined, then you could focus your attention to her and ask her or talk to her in a casual conversation, and later ask her to dance.

4. After the dance, take her out to the patio, away from all the noise and now is the time to start a conversation. Every time that she talks, listen and show her that you are interested to what she is saying, and what she has to say.

5. Be yourself. The conversation will flow smoothly when you are just being yourself and comfortable with all that you are saying.

6. Be honest. As long as you are honest with the information as well as the views that you are relating to the girl, then you will never be nervous at all, and you will not stumble in any mistake.

7. Remember here, that while you are talking to the girl and determining as to whether you like her or not, she also maybe in the same position as you and also determining whether she likes you or not. So do not be so overconfident. It will take you nowhere if you like her yet she does not like you.

8. When the time is right, ask her phone number.

Remember, if the girl you like turned you down, or you did not find the right girl in the club that you are in, still congratulate yourself, you did gain a lot of friends and who knows, one of them might turn out to be the girl for you in the future.

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