Archive for December, 2007

Relationship Advice: When They Don’t Want You Anymore

Tuesday, December 18th, 2007

It all seemed to be going so well. The chemistry between the two of you was obvious. You both shared most of the same interest and the conversations you had whether online by phone or face to face were filled with incredible talks and laughter. Things were just about to go to the next level in your relationship i.e. get more serious. It was not just you who felt that way either. Your partner was on the same wavelength.

And then it happened. The message on your cell phone was pretty direct in fact it seemed downright cold. Almost like hearing the voice of a total stranger instead of someone you had started to build a good relationship with. The words were short and to the point: “I never want to see or hear from you again.”

What went wrong? You call the person and try to find out the reason. When they answer the phone, they sound even colder than the voicemail. They tell you in no uncertain terms that they do not owe you anything and the relationship is thru. Click. End of conversation; end of relationship.

The reasons can be varied but in reality it does not matter. The main point is that being dumped is one of the most painful things that can happen to anyone. Rejection is a powerful force that can hit us like a tidal wave. Why? Because no matter how tough or hard core the person, deep down we all want to be accepted in some way. It is even more painful when love is involved.

Love puts us in a position where we are the most vulnerable. To share your life experiences with someone only to have them turn around and reject you seems like they are laughing in your face. It hurts. Anyone who says otherwise is only fooling themselves. If you have to grieve in you own way to get over it that is fine.

What you must not let rejection do to you is to create a permanent wall of self doubt. That has the potential to sabotage any relationships you will have in the future (and you will have future relationships). If you want to analyze what went wrong, then go ahead. Are there things you could have done differently? Possibly. No relationship is perfect. But remember also it takes two to tango. It is more than okay to assign some of that blame to the other person. That does not mean you call them up and start telling them what they did wrong. The relationship is over so respect their wishes.

What do you do? Move on. You were a good person before the relationship and you are still a good person. Understand it is their loss not yours. Now they will never get to know all about wonderful you. That is not arrogance or desperation. It is just the plain truth. Rejection in a relationship should never mean you stop loving or caring about you.

Don’t internalize any of those silly poems or love songs that say they (meaning you) will never love again. Of course you will. Leave all that self doubt in the past and move on. The only song you should be internalizing is the one written by Jerome Kern:

“Nothing’s impossible I have found,
For when my chin is on the ground,
I pick myself up,
Dust myself off,
Start all over again.”

By: Daryl

Article written by Daryl Campbell. Get more free relationship and dating tips, tools, videos and up the minute information along with the free report.101 Romantic Ideas. It’s all at The Dating Tip

How To Get An Ex Girl Back

Monday, December 17th, 2007

Getting an ex girl back is not actually as difficult as you may think it is, it basically comes down to a few key factors and when you know how to use those factors to your advantage, it is actually pretty easy to get her back.

So what are these key factors and how do you use them?

Well, I’m going to share some of them with you and some points you should think about, don’t think that it all depends on one thing or one of these factors as it usually does not, most things you can get around, here are some of the factors for you:

Factor 1 - Attraction

Let’s face it, one of the most important aspects of a relationship is attraction, if a girl is not attracted to you then it severely decreases your chances of getting her to date you, the good thing is that when it comes to getting an ex girlfriend back, you already know that she is attracted to you as she was your girlfriend before. Work on building your attraction levels and it will help a lot to get her to come back to you.

This is NOT the be all and end all, don’t think that your entire chance of getting her back relies on attraction because it doesn’t.

Factor 2 - Compatibility

Do you and this girl actually work well together or do you just thinks she’s attractive?

It’s important that you both have compatible personalities, otherwise there will be less chance of the relationship working. This depends on many different factors, however, you should have a good general idea of how compatible you are with each other from the previous relationship, if you don’t then think about it.

Factor 3 - The Reasons

Why should this girl come back to you? What are the reasons?

If your answer is simply because you want her to, then think again. There has to be a good reason for her to come back, such as, she feels attracted to you again or she sees that you are a better person now or whatever the reasons might be, the main point is that you give her a good reason to actually want to come back to you.

Factor 4 - The Methods

Of course, with nearly everything, how you go about achieving something will depend quite a lot on the methods you use to do it. It’s not usually just as simple as asking her to come back, you often have to use certain methods you win her back.

There are certain methods you can use that very much increase the chances of you getting an ex girlfriend to come back to you, most men don’t know about these methods and tend to do things such as begging or groveling, learn the methods and use them.

These are just some of the factors that come in to play when it comes to getting a girl back, there are other factors you should know about and you can learn about them on the internet, don’t make the common mistakes that most guys make, learn about the solid factors and methods and put them to use for your advantage.

By:

Discover The Simple Methods For Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back: => How Do I Get My Ex Girl Back

How To Be Confident In Dating Women

Friday, December 14th, 2007

When it comes to dating (or even seducing) a woman, confidence is vital. Women often equate “self confidence” with the ability to be successful. While many men believe that women look for successful men because they’re likely to make more money, that’s simply not true.

While it’s true, women actually look for successful men because they’re more likely to be content. So you may be wondering what a man being content has to do with anything. Let me explain, You see, women believe that men who are content with themselves are less likely to go out looking for someone to please them and are more stable.

And in a relationship that means a man will probably be less likely to be unfaithful, or change jobs regularly or get himself into any number of other embarrasing or comprimising situations. Remember that most women are looking for a man who will be their lover as well as their partner .

Not only do they want a partner when it comes to things like companionship, decision-making and finances, but in the bedroom, as well. In order to effectively seduce a woman youhave to make her feel as though you’re both equals.

When it comes to self confidence, it seems there are two kinds of individuals - those who have it and those who don’t. Although outwardly this may be true, everyone has the ability to be motivated or “self confident”, if you would like to call it.

Take heart in knowing that you’re a smart funny and decent person, good at your job, considerate, loving or whatever else you find to be positive character traits that you have. Be confident in knowing that NOT all women are looking for a CEO or brain surgeon. They just want a man who’s satisfied with what he knows, who he is, and what he has to offer to a relationship with them!

By: Donald B.

Before you purchase a new dating guide or manual be sure you check Dons site to discover helpful dating suggestions dating suggestions and information on woman-and-dating women and dating

Does She Really Love You?

Thursday, December 13th, 2007

Did you hear that? She just said: “I love you.” If you live in the 18th century, you could have slapped the rusticated walls with joy. You could have been jumping all day and has gathered all flowers in the prairie to offer her. You could have chased the moons and do all the impossibilities for that much awaited phrases said by millions of chivalrous men that lived and died for their beloved ladies. I love you.

It turned out that you involuntarily build up wrinkles in your young face when she mumbled it because it is the 21st century and all the greeting cards in the world is mechanically printed with “I love you/s” on it. Then you opened her card and find the phrases on it. Your girl is too verbal about the whole affair that all her friends know that she loves you as she says. The commodity is too cheaply spoken. You heard her saying it even to her poodle. With all the silence broken by benefit of doubts, now you wonder in your subconscious thinking: “Does she really love me?”

If you have this kind of thinking, then you will really have a hard time accepting love and getting it in return. Before you even ponder on the answer, better look in the mirror and recall if you always have these doubts in the past relationships you had. If not, then it’s time to make a better and more scientific approach.

Are you diagnosed psychologically? Seriously, then this could justify why you cannot accept realities in its simple form. Otherwise, everything is environmental and can be dealt with.

Here are the signs that a person really loves you:

* ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS:

Is she always there when you have dates? If not, does she leave you considerate words of excuse and make it easy for you by not letting you wait for an hour or so before even telling that she will not be coming. She treats you well by meeting halfway with what you both agree with. In other words, she will show it in her actions even without saying. You cannot expect someone saying, “I love you” all the time yet you caught her dating somebody else without your consent.

* ONE CANNOT LOVE WITHOUT GIVING

Does she try to please you with abstract things that you did not yet you get it from her? If she truly loves you, then she will find out what you want in a creative way and try to make sure that you get it. It could come in small gifts small gifts such as books related to your interests, a small gadget or any stuff. Without involving cash, it could be a kiss on the cheek that you longed for. It is something that has impact on you that come in small packages that make both of you happy.

* LOVE IS LIBERATING

If your girl clings to you constantly, turning your gazes only to her, does not want you to even use the computer other than checking your email, gets angry when you overlooked her birthday, and wants all attention focused on her, then you will end up feeling exhausted in her confinement. If she wants to drive your life’s goal to her interests alone, wants you to forget your loved ones, wants to see you every minute and most of all, does not want to release you when you want to get off her, then she is not truly in love with you. She is having you as a vanity.

* LOVE IS SUSTAINED BY MAINTENANCE

If she is constantly working out with you to make up for the mistakes and failures of your relationship, then it has chances of lingering and getting a wholesome journey. If it is only you, or only one of you is constantly working out to fill up the space that missing between you, then your relationship could die. You must see that she is doing the initiative with you for quality relationship.

Initially, it is only you who can judge if the relationship could be taken to its ultimate bond, which is marriage. It will take a lot of factors to know an individual based on her environment and social heredity. It is immaterial to have evidence if the person truly loves you just for personal satisfaction. Most of the time, it is a combination of opposite feelings, which in the end you will find out in old age…that is if she is still with you.

By:

My Relationship Tips has hundreds of dating and relationship tips for men and women.

Attract Young Women- How To Date Younger Hippy Chicks

Wednesday, December 12th, 2007

We all know we should be doing our bit for the environment, but if low energy light bulbs and recycling have always seemed a bit boring to you, here’s a great reason to sit up and listen: hippy chicks.

Eco-girls may be ahead of the crowd when it comes to waste awareness, but their approach to dating is often straight out of the sixties – they’re laid back, open minded and lack that materialistic streak which makes so many women covet extravagant gifts. Sounds great, right?

But if you spend all day every day in high-tech offices and fancy wine bars, how are you going to meet one?

Let me be your guide.

Start by heading to the places where hippy chicks hang out. We’re talking Fair Trade coffee shops and progressive book stores here. Ditch the supermarket in favor of farmers’ markets and organic food stores. Yoga may sound silly, but it’s great for getting rid of aches and pains and day to day stresses, so consider joining a class.

Get yourself up to date with the main issues. There are plenty of books and websites offering the latest information, so read up on everything from recycling to animal testing, alternative energies to over population.

If you can’t keep track of all those issues, don’t worry. Admitting you know very little about nuclear waste can actually be a good thing. Hippy chicks love to share their wisdom, so asking for more information can be a great way of getting her to talk to you. Make sure you show that you’re willing to learn and she’ll be more than happy to help you.

Act the part. At the risk of sounding preachy, lots of eco-friendly activities take surprisingly little effort and some even give you a little glow of pride. Consider trying the following:

* Don’t get caught carrying plastic bags. Reusable cotton bags fold up really small, so stuff one in your jacket pocket next time you go to the store.

* Invest in a quality travel mug and some Tupperware, and take coffee and sandwiches to work. This results in less waste and saves you a fortune, too.

* Lots of smart brands now stock organic clothes, so, given the choice, take the ethical option.

* Use public transport or get on your bike.

If you can’t or won’t go green for real, you’re going to need to pretend. Avoid wearing shiny leather shoes on your first date, and don’t even consider picking her up in a gas-guzzling SUV.

When making a date, think carefully about the destination. She may be vegetarian, so a steak house is out of the question. Consider independent coffee shops and small, quirky restaurants with menus full of organic ingredients. Hippy chicks love to get back to nature, so walks in the woods or strolls along the beach will also be a hit.

Scoring with an eco-babe may take a bit more research than your average girl, but they’re worth the work – and don’t forget that all those ethical new habits you’ve picked up will more than offset any less than virtuous intentions you may have for the end of your date.

By: Chick Magnet 10

Want to learn 50 WAYS for approaching, attracting and seducing women? If so, take a look at Scott Patterson’s Free eBook which provides 50 tips for instant dating success.