Wondering if your partner is being unfaithful to you can be incredibly worrisome. It makes no difference why you are suspicious - the bottom-line is that you deserve to know if they are being faithful. Let me show you an easy method to uncover if your significant other is cheating on you.

This “investigation” involves three simple steps. I am going to list them one-by-one so that you can find the answers you are seeking.

Your First “Mission”

The first step to do is to find 15 minutes or so when you can look at your spouse’s cellular phone. Be sure that you have found a good time so you don’t have to worry about getting caught.

A good time is to wait until they just get into the shower or step out to the mall so you are sure that you have enough time.

When you have gotten their cell phone, go get a sheet of paper and pencil.

Find the call history and look through both the outgoing and incoming call history lists. Print out every phone number on both lists. If there are numbers you recognize you can leave them off your list. Just make sure that you jot down each number that you haven’t seen before.

When you are finished, put back the cell phone and walk over to your computer.

Step Two

Once you have your list of phone numbers, you are going to “investigate” the name of the person who owns of every number on the list.

You can find out full details on someone just by having their phone number. A reverse cell phone search will supply you with the name, permanent address, location details and background information of the phone’s owner.

These days over 55% of phone numbers are either cell phones or unlisted. This means that the majority of numbers are not listed in any public directory.

Thankfully, there are specialized businesses that fork over good money to have access to full records to mobile phones and unlisted numbers. They then build databases that anyone can use.

Because these companies dish out money to put together these directories they do charge a small fee for making use of a search. It doesn’t cost much and will instantly display complete information for any phone number you run a search for.

A good way to save some money is to use a service that charges a one-time only fee for unlimited access to their database. You are only charged the one time and can then use their database and run a search whenever you want. Since your list will contain more than only one number you don’t want to be charged a fee for every phone number on your list.

At the bottom of this article there is a link so you can try a free sample lookup and get an idea of how this works.

Conduct a search for each number on your list and write down the information you uncover for each. You will be writing down the person’s name, address and other information you find for each phone number.

The Final Step

Now all you need to do is to look through the names on your sheet of paper. What names keep showing up? Many times people will suspect that their significant other is seeing a certain person - is that name on the list? If there is anything out of the ordinary going on, it will definately jump off the page at you.

There you have it - you know exactly who your significant other is talking to on their cell phone. Knowing who your spouse is talking to on the phone is an easy way to determine if they are being faithful to you. This will help you figure out if there is anything “funny” going on.

This simple tactic lets you get some important answers about your relationship. Hopefully you get the details you need and discover if you are in a relationship with someone who treats you with the respect you deserve.

By: Jack T Mason

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Everyone knows that a relationship takes effort on both sides for it to work, but there are things you can do to keep your relationship healthy and happy. Many factors are involved with making a relationship healthy and they are: Love, Trust, Communication, Honesty, and Boundaries. These are the hallmarks of a healthy relationship, and it takes two people to make that happen because if one person is the one putting the effort into the relationship then what do you really have?

Healthy relationships are based on two people bringing something to the table and making it happen. The issues many relationships face are things that make a relationship complete and whole such as talking about birth control. What makes relationship healthy is when two people can come together and compromise on things and have an effective communicative relationship while agreeing on hot topics such as birth control. Many couples find that they have to take responsibility for their own happiness and their own birth control and that nobody else can do it for them in order to have a healthy relationship.

Approaching the relationship from both sides and looking at it as a learning experience can in fact be one of the biggest tips to a healthy relationship and can even help bring a couple closer together. Appreciating yourself and your partner can bring that healthy harmony to your relationship because the biggest issue with couples is that one or both individuals don’t appreciate the best qualities of that person.

All healthy relationships are based on mutual respect and that’s something that takes a lot of work to maintain. Being able to discuss birth control is just one of those main issues of respect that you should be able to achieve and talk about. Healthy relationships are a work in progress and these things aren’t something you can put on auto-pilot and just let it run on its own because it takes effort of two people to make it happen, including birth control. Birth control is a two-person decision in a relationship – you both have to be on board.

Check in with your significant other or partner and see how they’re doing because paying attention to that person’s needs is also another link to having a healthy relationship because that says you really care about the person you’re with to show consideration for their needs. Keep in mind that you and your partner or significant other are “works in progress” meaning you are improving as a couple and as individuals. It also doesn’t hurt to explore the difference with elements of what makes a relationship healthy.

Keeping the expectations of a relationship realistic and talking about safe sex also makes a relationship healthy because it gives those out there a strong reality check on what they need to do to bring positive elements to the relationship. A relationship will never be perfect, but to keep it healthy takes effort on both sides.

When you don’t have what it takes to make a relationship healthy you don’t have much to work with. The one element that most highly forgotten that makes a relationship healthy is taking care of oneself and ensuring that you are using adequate birth control. Self-care is of most high importance in making a relationship healthy because some people spend so much time caring for someone else they forget about who’s the most important and it’s oneself and sometimes putting birth control on the back burner.

Not rehashing on past situations or events is what makes relationships healthy since it releases tension and allows both sides to make a fresh start in a new light especially after a difficult period in the relationship. Complimenting each other’s good traits can boost self-esteem and makes for something healthy in any relationship.

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Many nice guys complain to me: “Why is it that girls like guys who are bad and treat them badly, but only treat nice guys as friends?”, “I buy her gifts and drive her to places where she likes to go. But why is it that she says that I’m too nice to her, and left me for guys who are bad?”

Showering girls with gifts does not mean that she will love you. Guys got to ensure that the girl is someone who appreciates him, before concluding that nice guys are not worth anything.

It is true that many girls rate dishonesty and arrogance as unwanted traits in men. However, many women still like bad boys. They loved the thrills being with the bad guys, which simply turn them on. They would choose a guy who is tough and exciting, than a guy that is caring and sweet. They liked the challenge of being with a bad guy, as it proves that they are desirable.

As women become more mature and independent, they will select men who are nice and treat them well, and look for a serious relationship.

Being nice is often being stereotyped to be bad-looking and foolish people. This is a wrong generalization. In fact, nice people can be very attractive, combining both good looks and good character – caring, sincere and reliable.

Nice people are always there for you. They are available when you have problems, and are warm and sincere. In fact, relationships are more likely to work out well with nice people. They may not deliver the instant sparks, but they do make you warm over time.

Nice guys or girls can be anywhere around the corner – as your friend’s good friend, your office colleague, the person who offers you a seat, someone who helps you before, etc.

Only when you have defined ‘nice’ as one of the qualities that you would look for in your partner, you will be able to find this person in your love life, creating an enriching relationship.

By: Jerry Heng

Jerry Heng is a Dating and Relationship Consultant who helps singles to be successful in the dating scene, overcome dating phobias and problems, enhance love relationships, and find their true love. To learn more about his free Dating and Relationship advice, visit his blog www.hmengchoon.com You can also get his free report at www.datingexpertsecrets.com/free-report.pdf Further recommended resources: www.datingexpertsecrets.com

In the workshops I conduct for couples, I often ask if anyone has ever lied to their partner (the couples respond anonymously). Usually more than half (sometimes as many as 90%) admit to having lied to their spouse or partner at some point.

More than half the people who said they lied to their partner also reported that the lying had a negative impact on their marriage or relationship. Since lying can have such a detrimental impact on your relationship, it’s important to understand the reasons why you might lie and how to overcome the need to lie.

7 reasons why lying can creep into your relationship:

1. Self-esteem lies. Some people lie to bolster feelings of self-importance. In this case you might lie to your partner about your achievements and accomplishments. Your goal is to look good in the eyes of your partner (and others). At its extreme, deep-seated feelings of inadequacy can lead you to become a chronic liar.

2. Avoidance lies. The motivation for this type of lie is to avoid your partner’s reaction– such as disappointment or anger. You may feel that it’s easier to lie rather than experience/endure your partner’s emotional reaction. You may be someone who has considerable difficulty tolerating any perceived negative reaction. At its worst, your deceit is self-serving and hides relationship-damaging behaviors (e.g., an affair).

3. Self-denial lies. People lie to themselves all the time. It’s a form of denial–refusing to accept a reality that is too painful. All you have to do is watch American Idol to realize that this kind of self-deception is alive and well. People with absolutely no vocal ability refuse to accept the judges’ critical (and often harsh) feedback. Instead, they proclaim that they are excellent singers and will someday be wildly famous. Self-denial lies stand in the way of the openness needed for intimacy to grow in your relationship.

4. Hide-and-Seek lies. The impetus here is to hide parts of yourself from the world. Painful life experiences have caused you to feel unworthy of love to such a degree that you feel it is necessary to lie about yourself or your experiences. When you feel exposed, feelings of shame overcome you and act as a powerful motivator to hide from others (including your partner).

5. Saving-Face lies. While closely related to avoidance lies, saving-face lies are created to help you cover up your original lie. When it starts to become apparent to your spouse or partner that you’ve lied, you concoct a web of more lies to avoid the embarrassment and repercussions of having lied in the first place. This is one reason lies can quickly multiply.

6. The Compassionate lie. Sometimes the motivation to lie is altruistic–you don’t want your partner to get hurt. In this instance, you’re not protecting your partner from something that you’ve done that might be hurtful to him/her. Rather, you’re trying to shield your partner from something you discovered (e.g., you overheard a neighbor say he doesn’t like your wife) or an opinion that you believe would be upsetting (your wife asks if you like her new haircut and despite her uncanny resemblance to one of the Three Stooges, you respond with a definitive, “I love it!”).

7. The Spiteful lie. In this case lies are used as weapons to hurt someone. Schoolchildren often do this, fabricating rumors that are designed to put down others. In social settings such as school this is sometimes done to ostracize someone from a peer group while solidifying the liar’s position in the group. When this occurs in a marriage or relationship, it’s usually when anger is at an all-time high or the relationship is being dissolved. It’s less common for this type of lie to occur while the couple is committed to a future together, although some couples do report “fighting dirty” and saying hurtful, untrue things while they argue.

If you’ve lied to your partner recently, feel the urge to lie, or if lying has been a problem for you in general, begin to question your motivation for spinning these tales. Check your reasons with the list above to gain further clarity.

It’s obviously best that your relationship be built on a foundation of honesty. Honesty is the backbone of trust–once trust is compromised, your relationship can begin to spiral out of control. But the reality is that many partners do end up lying to one another, and while your motivation to lie might be benign, lies seem to have a viral-like capacity to spread. Have you ever noticed that once you’ve gotten away with a lie or two, it seems to get easier to lie in the future?

Be aware of that fact and of the reasons you may lie, and you take the first important steps toward a healthier, more honest relationship.

By: Richard Nicastro, Ph.D.

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The truth is, there are no magic formulas, no perfect tricks of the trade, no cunning ways of trapping Mr. or Miss Right and no top dating tips that wave a magic wand. But there are some essential facts that you should always bear in mind along the way. I have noticed that there are some threads of advice that keep cropping up and therefore it is worth reiterating my dating tips here.

* Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, decide who you are looking for, do your research and be ready to commit to dating. Never tell lies to your date or pretend anything about your life that isn’t true. If this is your perfect match for God’s sake do not allow it to be ruined by some silly lie told early on.

* Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don’t go overboard and look like someone you are not but maybe. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself.

* Have a good think about what your dating goals are and timescales. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don’t take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.

* Sort out your confidence levels in advance. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Do all the things that will boost your confidence from avoiding negative friends (often the married ones) to attending the right kind of social functions. Couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.

* Choose those you have a good chance of dating, don’t aim low but do aim realistically. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to pick out the really high-quality girls to get into relationships with you, be prepared and be realistic about your chances.

* Do make dating happen for yourself. People will not come and ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires positive action so go out there and meet people, as many people as you can. Practice your chat and flirting on shop workers, bar attendants, anywhere and everywhere. I know its a cliché but you will not meet people by staying indoors. Try to keeping attraction up in your relationships.

* Do surround yourself with positive like minded people who are also dating. Think about the girls from Sex and the City and how they assist each other in dating and matters of romance. Negative friends who don’t condone the dating scene or don’t understand it will only help lower your own expectations and make you feel negative.

* Take time off from dating occasionally if its not going well or causing dating fatigue. Dating is an ongoing process and so recharging the batteries and keeping the confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. Besides, do stay positive even when dates don’t end well. It is most certainly true that you will date a few frogs before you find a prince. Along the way you will meet some nice people too and make some good contacts possibly.

* Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not bring you a sparkle. Be interested and interesting. As the Pet Shop Boys once said, I was never bored because I was never being boring” or something similar. You get my drift.

* Never ever make yourself too available. Be busy, be unavailable generally and be interesting. People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. In keeping with this do not sleep with your dates early on if you want them to progress, so keep sex until later. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. Peak too early and you have little left to offer and emotions may never have had the time to develop.

By: M.Adam

Mark Adam dating advisor, for girls and boys and specializes in dating older women, and men. He work with Vybelist.com, offers dating meets in New York City once a month at modest cost, extended seminars are modestly priced, audio and video downloads from the web site every month, of each speaker, community events to facilitate meetings, supportive friendships and camaraderie. More Dating Tips/Upcoming Events.