The psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud once asked, “What do women want?” and, famously, he was never able to answer it. But what women want isn’t such a mystery. Relationship experts, sociologists and therapists have been studying the interactions between the sexes for decades, and they tend to agree on five basic things that woman require in a relationship.

1. Faithfulness.

It goes as far back as the cave-dwelling times, social archeologists say, when women were stuck tending the fire and raising the babies while their mate spent the day out hunting down dinner with a spear and a rock.

To stay safe and protect her young, she wanted the father of her children to come home at night, and it was nerve-wracking if her didn’t. Now, you may use a computer keyboard and a Rolodex to keep food on the table instead of rocks and spears, but the same emotional concerns apply - she wants to know that you’ll be there when she needs you. It speaks to her most fundamental feelings about safety, and if she can’t trust you, it’s scary.

2. Kindness.

Forget the tough-guy act - women want men who are considerate, thoughtful and, above all, kind. They want someone who’ll put an arm around them when they cry, who’ll bring them a cup of soup when they’re sick, who’ll pet their dog and play Legos with their child.

They want to know that you’ll listen to how they got into a fender-bender and help them to feel better, not yell at them for wrecking the car. Women spend a lot of time nurturing others, and when they’re in a relationship they want to get a little nurturing in return.

Most women who have extramarital affairs report that it wasn’t sex that led them to stray, it was attention and understanding - they had affairs with men who listened to their problems and treated them with kindness. If they’d been getting that attention at home, they wouldn’t have felt the need to cheat.

3. Equality.

Women want to be a partner in a relationship, not a father or an overgrown child. In surveys about relationships, women overwhelmingly say that they want a partner who’ll stand by their side, be their best friend, and really listen to what they say - celebrating their successes and commiserating with their failures.

They want a man who will recognize and appreciate what she brings to the relationship, and not denigrate them to keep them in a lesser, secondary role. They want someone by their side who’ll encourage them to grow, and to achieve their dreams, knowing that being with a successful woman doesn’t make them any less of a man.

4. Helpfulness.

When asked what they’d most like to hear their husband or boyfriend say, most women answering surveys say they want to hear, “What can I do to help?” As much as men hate being nagged by women, women hate nagging men - they really do.

An offer to do some chore that isn’t usually your job, like laundry or the dishes, will make you a hero in a woman’s eyes.

While researchers have established that women have an ability to multitask that’s far superior to men’s, that ability makes many women take on more than they can comfortably handle.

Even if she doesn’t have children, the average woman’s day includes everything involved with her job plus cooking, cleaning, laundry, remembering birthdays, planning get-togethers, paying bills, mediating fights between family members … and those six little words, “What can I do to help?” is like throwing a rope to a drowning woman. And remember, women are taught from childhood to see helpfulness as a sign of caring, so by offering her help you’re offering her emotional support, as well.

5. Respect.

Romance is all well and good, but in a long-term relationship, a woman wants your respect. She’s very likely holding down a full-time job, just like you, and maneuver her way through a world that still, no matter how smart and successful she may be, judges her by the thickness of her waist and the style of her shoes.

Women handle the bulk of the emotional work in their relationships (and, often, on the job, too) and studies show that they still do most of the housework even if they work full time.

And yet, almost every day they meet at least one man who thoughtlessly demeans them, whether it’s by saying, “You’d look much prettier if you were smiling!” or by calling them “sweetheart” and speaking to them as if they haven’t a brain in their head.

Women want to be respected for the enormous amount of work they do, for how hard it is to juggle everything that they have on their plate, and how much emotional support they give the people around them.

If you genuinely like the woman in your life as well as love her, respecting her shouldn’t be difficult. Just treat like the special, unique and beautiful person that you know her to be, and your relationship will flourish.

By:

Stop Getting The Man or Woman That You Desire The Hard Way! Discover the INSIDER secrets to winning the heart of the one you love using this FREE video tutorial to learn how to win a girl over! If you want to know how to save a relationship, get my AMAZING FREE video tutorial! Learn how one guy uses the secrets I reveal in this video tutorial to get his Girl back and save his own relationship WITHIN ONE DAY! Also read the RAVE REVIEWS from my readers coming from ALL over the world!

“Hey should men pay on every date?” You actually can use this as a conversation starter by asking women their opinion on this very topic.

What are the common answers we generally get by asking this question?

Some people would say that men should not act stingy.

We also have people like David Deangelo or Swinggcat who are from the opinion that paying on dates is a form of supplication, i.e. it is a way of trying to please women. And then you should almost never pay on dates or you should almost never buy women dinner.

I suggest this first rule: if you’re the kind of guy who tends to pay on dates and that you have underlying motives…Stop doing it! Why ? Because this is a demonstration of a lack of integrity. And lack of integrity is a huge turn-off for women. In other terms, you’re acting from a place of manipulation as you’re trying to elicit a specific response in women by trying to please them or by buying their affection. Another underlying motive men often have is trying to impress women by boasting about their work accomplishments or their new car.

If you’re being yourself and that’s part of who you are… then it’s ok. You may still want to dig deeper though. Pay attention to your hidden values. How is your identity constructed? Does it rely on having money and materialistic possessions?

Then you can gain insight by positioning yourself on the lover-provider continuum. The provider type is the “future good husband”. He has a good job and can take care of the family’s financial security. He has this “nice guy” side to him. And the lover type? If you haven’t watched the movie Don Juan de Marco with Johnny Depp and Marlon Brando, then watch it and make sure not to miss the opening scene in the restaurant. I can tell you Depp’s character did not pay for dinner…

We can also get the insight of the female dating expert Tiffany Taylor who states: “We often wield the power at the beginning of the relationship simply because tradition dictates that a man is supposed to ask the woman out. You’re supposed to impress us, gather up the courage to ask us out, pay for our dinners, and generally tempt us into giving you what you want.”

Unfortunately, with the habit of paying on dates, a man can also attract the wrong women.
If a woman is trying to induce a man to pay on every date, or if she never offers to split the bill, or if she asks questions about what line of work a man he’s in, or what kind of car he drives, beware as one can label her a gold-digger.

Let’s get a final insight.

Until fairly recently, modern roles for men and women were fixed and separated. This will sound very cliché but men were supposed to go out and earn money. Women were supposed to stay home and take care of the kids. Thus, men – especially those who came from a patriarcal background – used their financial wealth as a way of trying to control women.
Whereas women often manipulated their men through emotional outbursts and sexual innuendos.

Next came (and is still coming) a stage in which men and women both sought to balance their masculine and feminine inner facets toward “fifty/fifty”, becoming more like one another. For instance, in the US in the 60s, men began to acknowledge their feminine dimension by adding a sensitive side to their character – or by growing long hair. Meanwhile, many women were doing just the opposite. They gained financial and political independence. They learned to be more assertive.

It was a good thing for men to gradually get in touch with their feminine side and women to embrace their masculine facet. They became less dependent on each other. In terms of social roles, men and women became more similar. This was an improvement for everyone.

But this is not without side effects. Indeed this trend toward sexual similarity can be seen as a major cause of today’s unhappiness in a lot of couples. The trend toward parity has resulted in socio-economic equality, but also in sexual neutrality.

Today, a lot of men have this intuition about sexual polarity but they express their masculinity wrongly, by trying to demonstrate financial or physical superiority.

In the end, it is ok for women to be men’s social equals. What men should cultivate is their ability to play their masculine part in moments of intimacy, by demonstrating leadership and direction, not by putting their money on the table.

Copyright 2008 Astoundingdatingtips.com; All Rights Reserved.

By: Leon Casey

astoundingdatingtips.com/”> Astoundingdatingtips.com - Dating Tips On How To: Sexually Attract, Get A Date, Approach And Talk To Anyone Anywhere!

To read more of such articles, Click Here

Jealousy is something that you might have developed in the early childhood days. For a person that has reached a stage of jealousy that is very high and extreme it will be very difficult for him/her to overcome it. However this is possible but for this ones willingness is required. A person that is married might not like his/her spouse going around with someone else. In this case even if they happen to be just friends, a person feels that there is an extramarital affair that his/her spouse is having. He/she might feel jealous and might break the relationship or in the extreme cases as seen will go to the extent of murdering. All this was caused due to your suspicion. So if you are aware of your jealousy then there is every possibility for you to overcome it as there is help available in different forms. However there is something that is required from your side, your willingness to overhaul jealousy.

Jealousy is also seen as greed where a person wants any and every thing that his counterpart (the other person) has. In this case a person feels jealous about the other person where he/she was blessed with better things. A jealous person might also look upon his friends as enemies just because he/she has better qualities than him/her.

For example jealousy can also be seen in an office employee where one might not have got a promotion or salary hike and the others have. Instead of finding the appropriate reason for such an outcome, people often get jealous and loose their mind ending up having nothing. So in order to avoid such adversity one must look for help regarding jealousy.

Jealousy is something that you have developed with time and for overcoming it you can use hypnosis. Hypnosis is something that is related to the mental state. Hypnosis is the best possible help that you can get to defeat jealousy. This treatment allows your mind to calm down. The treatment is conducted in a very quiet place allowing your mind to go in the subconscious state. Subconscious mind is then lead to what is supposed to be the right path. Instead of getting jealous you will see that you are actually working towards your objective and see to it that you get it. So isn’t it right to work towards your target instead of being jealous about others.

Hypnosis is recommended by many psychiatrists and it is really an ideal source for you to get help from. Many people all over the world have realized its worth. As for you, you can also be helped with this cure all by yourself, where you are required to download the hypnosis treatment from the Internet that is available in the form of mp3. Once done you will realize its true value. Get yourself away from jealousy before it ruins your life. Overcoming jealousy is no further than a click away. Hypnosis can be effectively used to overcome jealousy. Therapy through hypnosis will not require you to make major adjustments in your daily schedule because you can carry on with the session at your spare time in the comfort of your home.

By:

For loads more on jealousy and how to overcoming jealousy please visit the links.

So you want to turn that friend you have liked for so long into a lover? Well I have good and bad news for you. Yes it is possible to turn that friend of yours into a lover, something more depending on the situation.

This is a problem that most women get frustrated and angry about because they believe that they are not able to have a guy friend because they always want more than friendship and unfortunately this is true with most men. What about yourself… how many female friends have you got in your life that you see on a regular basis that you never liked? I can bet not many.

If the woman you want to have more than friendship with associates you as “just friends” then you have no chance. Once a woman makes her mind up about you, there is nothing really you can do to change it unless you leave for a long time and come back a different person, but even then it’s extremely hard because those emotions and feelings will always be there.

Yes I have heard of men that have stuck it out there and waited 3 years and the woman finally came around and now they are dating. Though are you willing to wait 3 years of pain as well, seeing that woman date guy after guy and you having to just sit there and wait? How much have you lost in life? How many relationships have you lost out on by just waiting around for you to be good enough for her? What happens if you wait that 3 years and still nothing happens and you keep hoping? I have come to the realization that I believe in hope but believing in hope with women is a very fine line.

So you want this woman to be a lover? What have you done about it so far? Most guys I talk to want to have that friend to turn into their lover but they have done nothing about it, thinking it’s going to happen by itself. Honesty is the best policy. You can say anything to a woman if you say it like a man, what are you waiting for? She is not going to sit down with you and say “ok look, I know you like me can you just hurry up and say something.” It is not the female’s role to take that step.

The downside of this, depending on how long you have been friends for is that you would not have built that much attraction especially if she sees you as a friend.

There are several approaches you can take to see if there is any attraction there. You can flirt with the woman and see if she flirts back. You can have a pillow fight with her or tickle her. It is a completely different game getting a friend to be a lover as opposed to meeting someone new and the attraction already being there.

If you want to save time and effort then be honest with the woman. She already knows deep down that you like her, whether or not she is tricking herself into thinking you don’t. So be honest but say it as a man, don’t seek a reaction from the woman when you are talking to her and don’t hold back.

Don’t go too overboard and sound like you are obsessed with her but just let her know that you are attracted to her and want to take things to the next level. She will respond and let you know how she feels. You can either say something or not but either way if you don’t you are going to keep on wondering and there is nothing worse than not being certain in life. So save yourself time and the woman you are attracted to time.

From experience, the advice I would give to you is move on and meet other women, it is what I did and the following years was very grateful that I made that decision. There is an abundance of women out there more than YOU could ever handle. So if you are honest with the woman and don’t get the answer you want, use that pain to become a better person and have whatever female you want.

Copyright (c) 2007 Ignite

By:

Join me at Dating Core Secrets

If you really want to impress single women on a first date and make her fall for you, take her on a unique date she will never forget. By being unique and creative, you’ll stand out among the other guys she’s dated and she will want to be with you again and again.

Just keep taking a single woman you’re attracted to on one fun and creative date after another and she’s bound to fall for you and want to make mad passionate love to you. Try it. It works! Here’s a gold mine of creative dating ideas for taking women on a first date that will make a lasting impression make them crave to be with you:

1. Amusement Parks - This really makes for a fun date, especially if you both enjoy thrill-seeking rides such as roller coasters, etc. Also, don’t forget to try and win her a teddy bear or other keepsake.

2. Dinner at Your Place - One of my favorite things to do is to invite a date over for a candlelight steak dinner and champagne. I do all the cooking and wait on my date hand and foot. I really make my date feel special. So, if you really want to make someone feel special and have a romantic evening, do this for a very special date.

3. Dinner Theatre - There’s nothing like good entertainment while you’re eating. Your date will really be impressed and this is one of my top choices to take a date to.

4. Kite Flying - Stop by any toy store and pick up a kite and go on a kite date.

5. Head for your local park, beach, or any wide open space. Kites are not just for kids. It’s a fun experience for all ages and it’s kind of romantic. So, get your date and go fly a kite.

6. Moonlight Strolls - When there’s a full moon and clear skies, head for any lake or seashore. It’s so romantic to take your shoes off and wade along the shore with the full moon gleaming on the water.

7. Romantic Restaurants - If you really want to make a good impression on your date, take her to a cozy and romantic restaurant. It’s even better if they have a piano bar or live entertainment or soft music, dim lighting, roaring fireplaces, scenic views while you’re eating, etc. So, spice up your love-life or impress a date by going to a romantic restaurant.

8. Theatre (Live) - Most larger towns offer live theatre performances that can be just as good as a Broadway play in New York City. Attending live theatre on a date ranks at the top of the list for things to do on a date in my opinion.

9. Zoo - A popular and enjoyable way to spend the day on a date.

10. Picnics - This is tops on my list for first dates. Just bring a bottle of wine, cheese and crackers, or even better just pick up some fried chicken and potato salad. Don’t forget the blanket and radio!

P.S. If you like to learn about more creative dating ideas to win a woman’s heart and make her want to become intimate with you, be sure and order Item #022 - 100 Places to Take a Date.

By: Don Diebel

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com This article is copyright (c) 2007 by Don Diebel and may be reprinted in it’s entirety as long as his website, byline, and copyright statement is included.