Anyone that has ever been in a relationship can attest to the fact that fighting is always a part of relationships. No matter how much you love and care for your partner there are going to be times when you disagree and fight. But that’s ok, fighting is healthy, as long as you fight fairly.

When you and your partner get into that inevitable fight there are unwritten rules that should be followed. There are rules about what you should say and rules about how you should say it. If you follow these rules and fight fairly, fights can actually be healthy for the relationship. It has been proven that couples who fight fairly actually have a more intimate relationship and deeper understanding of one another.

What To Say?

• When you want to talk to your significant other about something that has been bothering you, make sure that you are specific when you initiate the conversation. This will help them understand what you think is wrong right away.

• When you bring up your grievances, make sure that you are criticizing your partner’s behavior not their character. Do not insult or belittle them. If your partner feels that you are attacking their character, they will feel hurt and betrayed. For example, if you think that they were rude to you, do not call them rude, specifically say that they were acting rude. There’s a difference.

• Don’t simply complain. State what you think is wrong, why you think it’s wrong, and how you would like it fixed.

• Do not bring your partner’s family into the argument. This will just make them become defensive.

• Don’t try to tell your partner how they feel. They know how they feel so let them tell you.

How To Say It?

• Do not yell. Yelling can be very harmful both to your significant other and others witnessing the fight, especially if there are children around. Remember, if you fight in front of your kids, you change them forever.

• Do not be sarcastic or angry. Both tones are very hurtful and they do not help to convey a point.

• Listen! Don’t cut each other off. Let your significant other say what they need to say, and when they are finished speaking, it will be your turn to respond.

• Be tolerant. Listen to everything your spouse has to say without getting defensive. If they are fighting fairly, they are not trying to hurt you.

• Focus on one thing at a time. When you have resolved one issue then you can move on to another one. This will keep you from overloading your partner with grievances, making them feel overwhelmed and hopeless.

• Give your partner some time to react and respond. Don’t demand an instantaneous solution. Sometimes just giving each other some space and walking away from each other to think is beneficial.

Ending The Fight

• Saying the right things and saying them the right way is only half of a fair fight. In order to make sure that the fight is truly fair you need to end it the right way also.

• Do not go to bed without resolving a fight. As more time passes, the fight will become harder and harder to resolve. It is better to stay up and fight all night than to go to sleep angry. Holding a grudge over a small thing can snowball into a huge problem.

• Always try to come to a compromise. It is the best way to resolve a fight. Don’t begin a fight with the mindset that it has to end the way you want it to.

• At the end of the fight apologize, especially if you hurt your partner. The fight shouldn’t be about right and wrong, it should be about fixing a problem and strengthening the relationship.

Arguments are the hardest part of relationships, but they are necessary and if done in the right manner, they can strengthen your bond even more. Even though it may seem hard at times, try to always fight fairly. Fair fights will only strengthen relationships. When fighting with your partner, remember that you still love and care about them and you still need to respect them. People who keep this in mind during a fight only benefit from it.

By: Victoria M. Brown

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Relationship problems don’t always have to be so hard to fix. In fact, your problems just might be easier to fix than you realize…

Here’s the thing, sooner or later, all intimate relationships go through a slump where the relationship just doesn’t seem to be very much fun anymore – where things just don’t seem to be working very well. And, neither the husband nor the wife feels like they’re getting support from the other or that they’re understood by the other.

Let’s go deeper…

Usually when companions start feeling these kinds of feelings, it can usually be traced to problems, difficulties, or stresses in one or more of the following areas:

• Financial / Money
• Child-Rearing
• Work / Career
• Health
• Non-Intimate Relationships

Now, here’s what usually happens…

These problems, difficulties, or stresses generate feelings within an individual that range from mildly unhappy to burning resentment. And, even though it may have nothing to do with the individuals spouse, still yet, it gets PROJECTED to the spouse in all sorts of ways – from short, snappy responses to withdrawing, aloofness, and coldness.

And that in turn, generates a negative response in the spouse that gets PROJECTED back to the originating individual.

So by way of example, let’s say a husband and a wife both work and they are both unhappy in their jobs. Because of this, they are both unhappy when they get home.

If this couple doesn’t take special care, their actual situation of “I’m unhappy when I get home because of work” can quickly become TRANSLATED into an, “I’m unhappy AT home”.

The thing is, this can happen without either party realizing it because they’re both so caught up in their own feelings that they come home drained – even exhausted – from the emotional turmoil of it all.

And, in this drained state, they don’t have the energy to be supportive to their spouse. Often, they don’t even have the energy to see if their spouse even wants or needs support.

Now, pause for a moment and think about this with regard to your relationship. Have there been times when this has happened within your own relationship?

Clearly, these negative TRANSLATIONS and unwanted PROJECTIONS are what both you and your spouse must stop if you want to get your marriage out of its slump.

OK, let me REMIND you how to do that…

Start making “thought-sharing” time for each other – even if it’s just a few minutes here and there.

Go sit down together at a nearby coffee shop and “visit” with each other.

Let the kids lock you OUT of the house for an hour over the weekend – and go play “footsie’s” with each other on the porch swing while you share with each other what’s on your mind.

If you’ll do this, not only does it give the two of you some breathing room, you’ll most likely find that that the unhappiness and resentment will just go away.

Probably, you’ll realize that the fight really isn’t between the two of you. Probably, you’ll both realize that you allowed external things to come between the two of you – and magically, the “fight” will be gone with nothing left but “issues” to talk about.

Most likely, you’ll discover that you still like each other a lot.

So, take some time, make the space, create the environment where you and your spouse can explore what’s going on in each others’ head.

In doing so, you’ll eliminate the common mistake that many couples make of translating external unhappiness into marriage unhappiness.

You already knew this, didn’t you…that the answer to most relationship issues is and always will be devoting more time to sharing thoughts and feelings with each other more often.

And that’s something EASY that anyone can do – including YOU!

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Most men don’t get over it very well and some even fear it so much, that it slows them down from approaching girls – rejection. There have even been surveys that show that over 70 percent of men who had been studied in a psychological clinic have a fear of it. Studies also show that most men have a worse fear of being dumped by their lover than being rejected during the first round of dating. This is said to be so because when dating for a while, men develop a bond with their girlfriend, making the adjustment of being dumped hard. You may think that a girl looks sweet and helpless, but trust, she is capable of dumping you in a heartbeat – even if the guy was very good to her.

There is no known reason to why women dump men for no apparent reason, so it is important for men to take some simple steps to take the break up a bit better. To help get over the girl that melted your heart in the beginning and broke it in the end, follow these tips:

1) You will first need to stop adoring her. If you keep holding on to past memories, photos and such, you won’t be able to get past her being gone and move on. This will only make things worse for you. It is important that you understand the fact that the relationship is over between you two. By giving her the same attention she deserved when she was with you will only create problems. Move on with your life without any thoughts of her.

2) Close all contact with her. It is important to get rid of any ties that you have with her. If you know places where she hangs out or areas where she works and lives, stay away. You should also get rid of her phone number, so that you won’t be tempted to call her (try to erase it from your memory if you can). If you keep popping up at places she is, she will look at you like a helpless dog begging for attention and love. Eliminate contact with her; this means talking over the phone, internet, snail mail and text messaging.

3) Express how you feel. Many men hide their true feelings; as a result this will leave problems unattended and they will only grow. This will cause you to think about the feelings more and your heartache will increase and will take longer to go away. Try going out with your friends; have a few drinks to get rid of the bitterness. Once you overcome the emotional aspects of the break up, you will be able to completely overcome it.

4) Avoid her completely. Even when you think you are over her, stay away from places she may be located; this may reopen healing wounds.

5) Don’t ask for things back. It is very immature to ask her to give back things you have given her. These items will only serve as a memory of her.

6) Go out! Don’t mope around the house all the time. Try going out with your friends to take your mind off of what’s going on. Before you know it, she will be miles away in your head and you’ll be able to finally move on.

By: Chick Magnet 101

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Want to know how to talk to girls and easily attract them? In this article, you’ll discover some unique conversation tips to warm up and eventually get a woman to like you. Putting her under a romantic spell can be very easy if you follow these great tips on how to talk to girls.

Be Calm and Confident.

The more nervous you are, the more prone you are to stutter and make mistakes when talking. You’ll also have a very tough time coming up with anything interesting to say when you’re anxious. So take it easy and be yourself. Women may notice if you’re just “acting” out to impress her, and this might even turn her off.

Ask The “Right” Questions.

Ask questions that will encourage her to talk further and flaunt her ability or experiences. Don’t ask questions that lead to a dead-end answer such as “yes” or “no”, or questions that delve deeply into her private life (especially when you’ve just met). Moreover, don’t ask silly questions for the sake of having something to say.

Develop Your Sense of Humor.

Among all the strategies on how to talk to girls, having a good sense of humor is probably the most effective.

Here are some great tips to improve your sense of humor:

If you’ve accidentally done something ridiculous or embarrassing, turn that situation into a joke. Learning to accept your own mistakes is a plus factor for women.

Watch comedy movies and shows to know how to deliver humor at the right time. Then tell the joke to your friends and ask them to honestly rank how funny (or not funny) you are. Tell them that your dating or social life depends on their honesty. If they don’t think you’re funny enough, practice until you get it right.

Each girl has her own diverse personality. Tell jokes that fit her qualities. Don’t tell jokes that might offend her in any way. Be careful with sensitive issues such as religion, politics, beliefs, etc. Telling jokes about a certain politician or actor might turn out disastrous if she’s a loyal fan of them.

Stay informed of current news and the latest jokes. You don’t want to tell her a joke that she has heard many times before. Knowing what not to talk about is as important as knowing how to talk to girls.

If she also shows her humorous side, observe her style. Then weave your own style into hers. Be subtle; don’t be too obvious that she notices you copying her approach.

Your body language is equally important in delivering your joke. Use the right facial expression and gestures.

If she’s genuinely laughing, and sometimes holding or shoving you in a teasing manner, that means she’s very much into you.

Did you get something useful out of this article on how to talk to girls? If you did, please share it with other guys who might need them. Remember to stay calm and confident, ask the “right” questions”, and have a sense of humor so you can have an easy and pleasurable time speaking with women.

By: Lee, Michael

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When I was growing up as a young undergraduate, something used to bother my mind so terribly that I would be wondering whether it will be easy for me to settle down as a married man and have a family of my own.

What used to bother my mind back then has it’s root in the topic of this post, ‘what does a woman want in a man?’ Each time I heard this question thrown to any young lady, the kind of response I usually hear saddens me.

If you take a sample of a hundred Single ladies, the reply of about 90% of them will include but not limited to these five words….Caring , Young, Handsome, Tall and Rich. Having this in mind, I would sit back and think about it… do these ladies really know what they want?. Because, Men that would meet all these requirements may not be very easy to come by.

However, if you now take a sample of another hundred married women, you will discover that 50% of them did not really got married to the man who actually meet all these imaginary criteria, but are still happily married. At the time , the handful that might have counted themselves lucky for getting married to the man of their choice, may not necessarily be happy in their marriage

In view of the foregoing, what does a woman really want in a Man? Or rather, what are the most important qualities a woman should look out for in a Man? I think it is now important for the happily married Women to sit back and ask themselves this question again.
I hope they now know better and should be able to answer this question objectively. I am very sure their answers would now be different from what it used to be in those days of ‘ignorance’

Having settled down as a married Man with two children, I now know there shouldn’t have been any cause for alarm about those ‘Imaginary Criteria’ of those days.

Lastly, in my own personal opinion, what I think a woman really need in a man is these two words ‘Love and care” which are all encompassing. With the woman also giving same in return, the home would definitely be a happy home.

By: realimage

Olalekan Ashiru is a former Banker, now an Entrepreneur with special interest in the Internet. His special area of interest is Relationship Compatibility. You can read more about his articles at www.onlinesynergy.blogspot.com and www.websingles.blogspot.com